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    I too had an experience similar to yours. I made a friend one, she was going thru a rough time, and I did it to comfort her. She barely looked at it when I gave it to her, and never said another word about it. But her sister told me that my friend loves it, is just shy about expressing her feeling about homemade things. When at my friends house once, her sister said something about stealing the quilt, my friend pipped in and said "no way, I love it, use it every day". So I guess it was a good thing I made it for her.

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    Give quilts to someone who appreciates them..if you want acknoldgement all the time, it isn't going to happen..it has been 3 years since any word on a wedding quilt, and two baby quilts, to two different neices....all are family too.

    so no more quilts for them, i like doing for charity or to cheer someone up now. they are the most rewarding. so sorry, you have had this happen to you..

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    this has happened to all of us And like K said, quilt for yourself. For the pleasure it gives you. And please post pictures so we can enjoy your talent and what you do. We, understand what goes into a quilt and appreciate every stitch.

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    Quilts are a labor of love. Life is short - If it makes you happy while doing it don't worry about others.

    I am sure that ones made, you will find someone to give it too how will appreciate it.

    I really feel that young people now a days don't know how to say Thank You. Unfortuately the days of written Thank you notes appears to be over.

    I would love to see pictures of the quilts you have made.

    Thanks for sharing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kwhite
    Quilt for you sweetie. Post pictures here and we all really appreciate your talent and effort. Our art is so misunderstood and unappreciated outside of our world.
    Don't let it get you down. Make one for yourself.

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    These one's that are appreciated take away the pain of the one's that aren't. I have made baby quilts for everyone at my office that has had a baby. I saw one of them 6 years later, and it was so well loved, it was almost in shreds.
    On the other hand, I made a Hawaiian style needle turned quilt for my step son when he married his first wife. Took me almost a year to complete (due to the interruption of a full time job). After they divorced, my husband saw the quilt being used in the garage to cover some old dirty tires. I think it hurt my husband more than me.
    I have learned that once you give something away, you have to let go.

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    I think we have all had people who don't appreciate what we do and the gifts we give. They don't realize that when we give a quilt we are really giving a part of ourselves. But then you have someone who is so thankful that it makes up for a little of the other. I made one of my Godsons a quilt a good 25 years ago when he went to collage. He still has it. It is in absolute tatters because it was loved to death. When they had kids it was used at the "sick" quilt. His wife has patched it so much there probably isn't much of the original left. Last year she said it was time to retire it and all of the kids (teenagers now) had a fit. It has made me feel so good all of these years to know how much it was loved. This year I am making them a new one.

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    went to a baby shower last month. got the call this morning. Aryanna made her debut last night. her mom and dad wanted me to know she will be coming home wrapped in her blankie. I hope they don't lose her inside- it was 48" x 48" and she's only 6 lbs.

    now that makes me feel warm and fuzzy and makes up for the ones you don't get a thank you for.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OHSue
    I have been quilting for about a year, have actually made very few quilts but have done some doll quilt swaps and block swaps.
    In fact I have only made three full size quilts, one for a neighbor when she was going through chemo, one for her first grandchild and one for my dad. My neighbor cried when I gave her the quilt. She delivered the baby quilt to her daughter when she had the baby, I have never even had her acknowledge the quilt and I have seen her pretty often and see the baby every weekend. When I gave my dad the quilt I thought he would really appreciate it since his mom made quilts. Well I don't think they had it out of the gift bag for 30 seconds, his wife said, Oh yeah, that's nice and stuffed it back in the bag.
    I was so proud of those quilts and it just broke my heart to see that two of the three were truly not even appreciated, probably not even wanted. That has really put a damper on me wanting to make any more gift quilts.
    What kind of relationship do you have with your stepmother? Could that be a factor in her crappy attitude when you gave your dad the quilt? Even though it appears that your dad "dropped the ball" when you gave him the quilt, I say (a) be glad your neighbor appreciated your thoughtfulness and your efforts and (b) chalk the other 2 up to people who lack sensitivity (and/or manners). I hope you continue to make quilts and thoroughly enjoy the process, whatever you decide to do with them when they are complete.

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    I must tell you that I am one of those people who like to stir up an anthill and I would be likely to say something such as, "I guess you don't like the quilt ... just give it back, then."

    I allow for certain circumstances and I know there are people who really appreciate a gift, but who can not or will not acknowledge it. If I know this to be the case, I don't say anything ... I allow for certain idiosyncrasies ... we all have them. BUT, on the other hand, if someone is just rude, ungrateful, or is a "me, me, me" person, I really like to take him/her down a peg. It is so satisfying!

    Of course, when the gift is for a child, I would never say a word, no matter how ungrateful the parent(s).

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    [quote=weezie]
    Quote Originally Posted by OHSue
    What kind of relationship do you have with your stepmother? Could that be a factor in her crappy attitude when you gave your dad the quilt?
    Believe me, my father was just as inattentive as his wife, I guess I don't really think of her as a step mom since they got married long after I had left home. I know I have no right to 'expect gratitude', but all I have thought about is the number of personal projects I put on the back burner to do these quilts for these folks.
    Trust me, the next big project I have planned is for my husband, at least he knows enough to appreciate it, or at least fake gratitude (LOL) and I will get to sleep under it.

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    So sorry this happend to you but God loves a cheerful giver and just think there was one that appreciated you so now you will be the one that gets the blessings so pls.start sewing again and make quilts for yourself or maybe for some charites(:)

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    I would just think of them being rude and jealous of your talents. Your heart was in the right place, maybe their's isn't.

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    Most people don't realize everything that goes into a quilt. I quilt for my self and if others don't appreciate it that's their problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jingleberry
    I would just think of them being rude and jealous of your talents. Your heart was in the right place, maybe their's isn't.
    I agree...don't let other people's crap attitudes and behaviour get you down. Now...get quilting and be happy...I am sure there are many people out there who would be very grateful and happy to receive one of your quilts...especially, small people who may be going through a traumatic time with illness or family breakdown.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OHSue
    I have been quilting for about a year, have actually made very few quilts but have done some doll quilt swaps and block swaps.
    In fact I have only made three full size quilts, one for a neighbor when she was going through chemo, one for her first grandchild and one for my dad. My neighbor cried when I gave her the quilt. She delivered the baby quilt to her daughter when she had the baby, I have never even had her acknowledge the quilt and I have seen her pretty often and see the baby every weekend. When I gave my dad the quilt I thought he would really appreciate it since his mom made quilts. Well I don't think they had it out of the gift bag for 30 seconds, his wife said, Oh yeah, that's nice and stuffed it back in the bag.
    I was so proud of those quilts and it just broke my heart to see that two of the three were truly not even appreciated, probably not even wanted. That has really put a damper on me wanting to make any more gift quilts.
    OHSue,
    i have been there--spent months working on a sunbonnet sue full size bed quilt for my granddaughter and before i bought a backing i showed it to her. her response made me stop in my tracks. i put the quilt away for over two years now and have done nothing to it. i spoke to several people and they all say the same thing--she missed out. 'quilt for yourself', ohsue, and enjoy making something that makes YOU happy.

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