There is no excuse for her to be to rude. It is a lovely little quilt and made with love. I just hope the baby gets to use it.

I'm so sorry that happened. It is a beautiful quilt...it should be well loved...maybe one day the baby will grow older and absolutely LOVE IT:):) Have made more than one with minkee and they are favorites for my granddaughters and great nieces. Keep up the good work. Your step-niece needs manners, unfortunately.

I agree, it is very hurtful, just the fact it was called "a blanket"..but like earlier stated, she will go through all her many gifts and when she gets them home most likely and look at each gift more closely, and realize it was handmade with love and give you a call. You done a great job! I made a wholecloth baby quilt for a "raffle". I told the girl who was responsible for the items to put it on the table and sell tickets on it..that is will bring alot more as a raffle than as a silent auction..she said ok and then done it as a silent auction and got $20 on it..if she only realized the many hours I spent quilting it, made me sick..the little girl, who was diagnosed with leukemia's family would have received alot more money if she had followed my advice.

She was probably just over excited about her shower. I am sure when she takes it out later she will see the wonderful treasure you gave her!!!!

Her seeming ingratitude is her problem. I feel that God knows your heart and will take your effort at heart. You did not lose. You won in the trying. :-)

Well, sometimes people are so overwhelmed at showers they just don't take time to look the things over. Give her some time. She probably didn't even realize it was made by hand.

Sorry that happened. I bet baby will love it sew much!!

sorry that happened its a beautiful quilt

Nice.

Those quilts should have gone to a crisis pregnancy center! They were given as a token of hope--keep the hope going!

Sorry to hear this...if you searched disappointed at the top of this page you would find 95% of the topics posted with that as the title have to do with gifts that are given and not appreciated...sadly..not everyone GETS quilts/quilting....

It is adorable. I don't know what to say. It is so beautiful and I just can't believe anyone wouldn't appreciate it. Now the baby will be a whole different matter. He will love the softness and the colors. I'm sorry this happened to you. You took time and thought and it is hard not to have your efforts appreciated.

I recently made a quilt for my other half's cousin for a wedding gift. We didn't attend the wedding but gave it to her at a family gathering afterwards. When she took it out of the bag, she was excited because she loved the colors. I wanted to make sure she saw the quilt label on it so I showed it to her and she said "You made this?" then she was even more excited!!! I don't know that she knew that I quilted so she wasn't expecting it to be hand made. After letting her know that it was handcrafted, she had a totally different respect for it. It doesn't hurt to let the receiptant know that you made it specifically for them. Other wise, they might just think it is mass produced and store bought.

True, true. When I mass-produced table runners for everyone for Christmas, when they were first opened, the reaction was "Oh, that's nice." But then, someone said, "Wait, did you MAKE these?!?!?!" and everyone went berzerk! Take it as a compliment to the high quality of your quilting skills :)

I see no problem with telling the person getting the quilt, table runner, etc that you made it. Some people may not know that you quilt or sew and it would be a shame for them not to know that they have a "made for them" item. Most people will appreciate the item more if they know it was handcrafted and not store bought. I know that at baby showers especially, the mom receives lots of blankets and should be told when it is made specifically for them and their little one.

Sorry for your disappointment--I am glad at baby showers in my town the people can't wait to see the quilt I have brought!

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As soft as that quilt is that baby is going to love it, and it will be drug around and cuddled with so just put that picture in your mind. I wish sometimes I had something like that to make my bad times go away.

It's a beautiful quilt! It does hurt when you work so hard on something and it's not appreciated. Been there done that.

Maybe she received so many gifts that she didn't have time to look at the great blanket you made. When she puts the baby's room together she will have time to notice how nice it is.

Maybe she received so many gifts that she didn't have time to look at the great blanket you made. When she puts the baby's room together she will have time to notice how nice it is.

Maybe she received so many gifts that she didn't have time to look at the great blanket you made. When she puts the baby's room together she will have time to notice how nice it is.

Too bad you can't wrap up a big box of good manners to give some people!
The quilt is lovely :)

I think all of us go through times like this. I too was excited to give a pinwheel baby quilt to my husband's niece who lives in France. We never heard, and never heard, if she received it or not,so I emailed her. She replied that she did receive it. Her excuse was that she was so busy that she didn't have time to email a thank you. We also gave her $. Nothing was said about this either. Lesson learned for me. Never will I take the time and money and esp the effort to give something homemade. A store gift certificate will be the gift now on. I would rather give to the needy children in this world than to anyone else who would snub your generosity. I was hurt too.........time heals. Hugs.

I think it's adorable too! Some people just don't appreciate what it takes to make a quilt . . . until they try to buy one that's already made! I bet the baby will love it!

The blanket is very nice and the step niece is thoughtless.
I had the same experience. I made two quilts for my sister-in-law and her husband for Christmas. I even made matching pillows. They live very far away. I got a picture of their daughter-in-law, who was sick, wrapped up in one. No real thank you. They hadn't even realized that I made them until we talked at a later date. Nor had they seen that I had named the quilts and dedicated them to each one and "signed" my name.
They are not young so we can't blame the lack of manners on age!

I usually remind people that their handmade gift is one of a kind, made especially for them and no one else has the same one. Even if it ends up in a thrift shop, someone out there will scoop it up and appreciate it. The positive energy that went into it will not be lost.

Things are always so hectic at showers and there are so many gifts. Maybe she'll appreciate it more when she has time to take a second look at her gifts at home.

I think you did a great job!! It seems like some people any more expect things and don't appreciate them! I completely understand the hurt, and I know they are gifts that we have given, but we put so much work and time and love into our creations that it's hard to take some reactions. She will realize someday!!

It's a beautiful quilt. She just didn't realized what it was. Sometimes showers are overwhelming when you are young but when you get things home and start putting them in drawers for the baby you realize how wonderful the gifts are.
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I know exactly how you feel. My avatar is a quilt I made from antique blocks that a dear friend asked me to make for her daughter's hs graduation present. I told her I would do it before I ever saw the blocks. The maker had washed them after she made them and they were a mess. The we also made from leftover stuff, kids clothes, hubby's shirts, etc. The only thing i could do with them was applique them onto other fabric. I had about $200 in it plus about 200 hours. I didn't take a cent for it. We couldn't stay for her party as we live about 4 hours away and so she opened it before the party. I'm so glad she did because she just smiled and said "nice." Then later she asked her mother if she was going to get any "real" presents. I was heart broken. But I got to thinking about it afterward, and I really made it for my friend who did appreciate it.

That's when you grab it up before you leave and give it to someone who appreciates it...LOL It's a very cute quilt!

It is hard when you have put so much of yourself into making a really great gift and it is treated that way.. Just know you had love in your heart when you made it and try not to let it hurt you.

I very recently, had a similar response from a young mother-to-be. "Did you make this? Pretty" refolded it and put it back in the gift bag. No other comments. On to the next gift.

Did she have any idea of the hours I took planning, sewing and quilting that gift? No! and this is where the voices of many contributors to this board echoed in my head. "Just let it go. She may appreciate it later or not. You gave it as a gift. It is no longer yours"

You know the love and skill that you put out to create your lovely little quilt. We need a little reminder that we do this for joy of the creation not the praise we may get. At least I do.:roll:

If you can, put aside your hurt and love the mom and the baby. I lean on the hope that some time in the future, I will have the opportunity to share my joy and passion for quilts with the new owner of my quilt. It may be the mother but it may be the child. :lol:

Perhaps maturity will bring about a new level of appreciation of what others do for you.....I love it and would be very proud to display it in my nursery....

:-D Love the story! "MINE!!!" That made your efforts all worth while.

I don't get over thoughtlessness/rudeness like that; it stays with me forever. That's one of the reasons why I give my home made quilts & dolls (into which I have poured much time & effort) to a very select group of people. Everybody else gets a bought gift, carefully chosen & not cheap, but even so, it's unusual if they find the time and make the effort to send a thank you note.

I made a double wedding ring quilt for the in-laws with Kansas Troubles fabric. It was for their 50th wedding anniversary. My feelings were really hurt a couple months later when she showed me her new bedroom set and the quilt was no where to be found. I didn't say anything, but I will not make another.

You did a great job on this. Pat yourself on the back - baby will love it!