I made this baby shower gift for a distant step niece. When she opened it she just held it up, said "a blanket" and stuffed it back in the bag. It kind of made me feel like I shouldn't have bothered making it. It had minky on the back and warm & white batting in the middle. It was sooo soft, I thought sure she would like it....What do you do with feelings like that? I tell myself she'll appreciate later (maybe).... :(

I think it's adorable.....Hopefully, she will realize the love that was put into this "blanket" and will be more appreciative later....Hugzzz to you...

I friend of mine had something similar happen until someone told the receiver it was a handcrafted quilt she was thank profusely a few months later - you have to be of the mind set to give it as it is intended if they don't get it well don't give them another one - some people don't have any comprehension of what our time is worth or what it takes to make a quilt....- just hope they use it

I learned along time ago that I have no control of how a gift is received. My joy is in the making and the giving. If the receiver does not enjoy or use it, it is their loss. You might try asking next time you want to gift a quilt, if they would like you to make one and what color. My DH sister, nicely made it clear that she does not like to use quilts.....so I will not make one for her. My brother's wife said...if she did not want it to send it to my brother....he loves quilts. You just never know.:)

How old was she? Sometimes these youngsters don't realize the time and love that go into these items. HUGS TO YOU!! I love it!
People invite me to their baby showers and are disappointed if I don't make them a quilt, but I only make them for "special friends".

She may not of realized it was handmade by you. Even so, she should of said what a sweet little blanket and thank you...

It's so beautiful I would give it to MY grandbabies!

Great job...it really is a nice QUILT.

Maybe she did not realize it was hand made. If she never saw how a quilt was made, she would have no clue. My sister had me give my 1st quilts to her teen age grandaughters. I know their wants turned shortly to I don't care about this.

I had a tag on the back that said " Made with love for little baby Lawson etc.... Maybe she didn't see it and didn't realize that it was handcrafted, I don't know...

I know that it hurts, ))))))HUGS((((( to you. However look at it this way it might be the baby's favorite blankie. My son had one and he would not go to sleep without it. :P

That is lovely and soooooo cuddley with minky on it. Sooner or later someone will set her straight...even if it is you. :) They don't realize all the work that goes into ONE OF A KIND blanket :)

My MIL admired my quilts evertime I showed them to her. I made her one and gave it to her. No thanks or anything. Not once did I see it on her bed. She passed away 8 months ago. Up to this day, the quilt has not been found. Dont know what she did with it.

It's so sweet. I know it hurts. I have had that happen to me also.

You're right to be disappointed, because you put a lot of time into making something you hoped would be appreciated and loved. BUT . . .

Some people just don't have a special place in their heart for quilts (or afghans or wallhangings or whatever the gift may be). I've learned that I make them only for people I know will love them like I do. If I make one for someone who isn't a quilt lover (or if I don't know for sure that they are), then I'm taking my chances, and I can't be disappointed if they aren't overly excited when they get it.

My niece loves my quilts - and she even made one for her daughter's "big girl" bed, but she didn't want one for the girls when they were babies. Instead, she preferred my lightweight knitted afghans that were easier for them to drag around behind them as they got older. Baby #1 is almost 2, and that afghan is still her favorite. Baby #2 is about 4 months, and she doesn't have hers yet, but it's in the works.

Baby #1 came over about a month ago to spend the morning with me. I have an old baby quilt that I actually put on the floor for the pets. It has a hole in it, and it was nothing special to begin with - just a practice piece for quilting. Anyway, Baby #1 took a liking to it and would lay on it to watch TV. When one of the cats came up to lay on it, Baby #1 put her hands on her hips, looked down at the cat, and said, "MINE!" So, see? Even if Mom wasn't as appreciative as you would have liked, the baby may make the final decision after all!

I like it and would give it a home.

How much attention did the mom-to-be pay to the other gifts?

If there is a large number, sometimes the person just opens stuff quickly and takes a more careful look later.

Not being a quilter, she probably did not realize the blood, sweat, and tears that go into our projects. I believe once she starts using it she will begin to appreciate it more.

HUGS to you.

One of the GD had a good dozen quilts given to her when she was born. She had cancer and started chemo when she was 4 mo old and everytime she went to the Children's hospital they gave her another quilt. Later the parents were very hard pressed to find babies to give all the quilts to, and none of the quilts had any special meaning to them. They ended up at Goodwill. When they used a quilt or a blanket they selected it on the basis of color and the clothes the baby was wearing, nothing else. Pink dress, pink blanket, etc. Someone could have put binding on a piece of minky and it would have meant as much to them as a pieced quilt. Go figure.

I went through the same thing about two weeks ago. My sons girlfriend did the same thing. She took the two quilts and one large receiving blanket out of the bag and just gave them a glance and put them back. Didn't even open them up.
Her mom and sister on the other hand opened them, checked the stitiching and asked questions. They gushed over them. It hurt my feelings that the one person I wanted to like them seemed indifferent. I shook it off. The reason being I haven't got time to let someone else make me feel bad. I also think it might have something to do with the generation. Lets face it some of todays young people don't appreciate hand made items like we do. If it isn't store bought, it just isn't up to snuff. But then there are those out there who love the hand made items and when they receive them they show they are appreciated.
I think you quilt is lovely. You did a nice job.

No doubt she was excited and maybe nervous while opeing gifts. She will love the blanket, when she starts using it and will probably tell you how much she likes it later on, just forgive her for her thoughtlessness and move forward. It is so beautiful, and all of us think it is a wonderful gift.

I always jump in and say ,"I made it especially for you," and then explain why I chose what I chose. I made a baby quilt with a science theme for a co-worker and made sure he knew all the work involved. So he wouldn't think it was something I picked up at the store.

People don't recognize what's hand made or what's involved with hand made items.

So sorry this happened to you, it's a lovely blanket & generous gift. Let's hope the recipient was a little flustered with all the attention being given to her. Like others have said, the baby will love it.

I had a similar experience. Traveled 13 hrs straight w my DIL for her cousin's dtr's baby shower. I didn't know the people, but made a pretty pink embroidered quilt backed in Minkee. She barely opened it. My DIL said "Isn't it pretty....Joyce made it herself. The mommy-to-be said," Oh really, Well, we'll use it somewhere." (as if homemade made it less valuable)

For those of us who quilt and sew, we need to face the fact that to some people the fact that hand made or hand crafted or home made makes a gift less valuable.

If she has another child just buy something, no more special gifts for her.

Its a lovely quilt...and I agree that when I make something, I just have to say when it leaves my hands, it is out of my control...that being said, I know it is hurtful, and you shouldn't feel bad about feeling hurt that it didn't seem that she "got" how much work and love went into it...maybe going through everything at home, she will see the label, and really understand the love and work in it...and, I also agree now you know that something "store bought" is ok for a gift for her...

There was 1 quilt I gave as a gift, the person said "thanks", and went on....several months later I saw the person again, and he said, "I want to tell you I really looked at the quilt you made for me, and the amount of work you did is amazing. I don't think I ever let you know how much I appreciate it..", and the quilt is hanging in his home in a main hallway! So, you never know...

I love your blanket and I'm sure once she has the baby she will LOVE using it. It really is a pretty rag quilt!

I am soooo sorry. You know I've given quilts and had calls to find out if I had handmade it. I don't put labels on unless its going to a family member. They were thrilled to have a handcrafted gift but perhaps not knowing makes a difference.

You never know how people will react but I have seen through the years that that quilt will probably become the most loved gift she ever received!

I'm sorry your feelings were hurt. It does look very soft and cuddly and I'm sure the baby will love it.

Susan

Its a gorgous blanket. Maybe she didnt realize it was hand made with love.

Very pretty. There is no excuse for being rude or stupid.

I am so sorry about your dissappointment. I know exactly how you feel. It has happened more than once for me. I always make baby quilts for showers and I am considering not going to the next shower so I am not dissappointed when they open the gift. I will still make the quilts, but when you work so hard on something to have the mother-to-be say "another blanket" it is very discouraging. It is also embarrassing when you over hear someone say "She can afford to buy something nice, why only a blanket?"

I so totally agree with this comment - I labored intensely to make a quilt for my mother last Christmas, and she was usually my biggest cheerleader for anything I made, so it really surprised and saddened me when she didn't make a huge fuss over it like I kind of was looking forward to. I don't know if she was overwhelmed by it or if she was being as gracious as she could by accepting a crafted item that really wasn't her style...I put a lot of hard work into it including my first foray into the evil world of paper piecing and learned a lot from it, so all wasn't lost, but still....

Your quilt is yummy lovely wonderful and hopefully the recipient will come to appreciate it and grow up a bit in the process...

It's a beautiful quilt.

I always feel people before I make something for them. Try to figure out what they like and if they like home made items. I've had the same expereince and don't like it so I'm very careful now.

This was my thought too. And sometimes they just are not good at expressing their feelings in front of a group of people. I made one for a shower this weekend and it was the last gift opened-there were 70 people there. Although she said she loved it I know she was exhausted from standing up there for over an hour opening gifts and saying "AW cute" and "thank you" over and over again. Maybe that was true of your mommy-to-be. I hope so.

That was the thought that popped into my head too. I'm sure your quilt will be appreciated when it gets used every day. That's the true test.

I had pretty much the same thing happen. I gave the expectant
mother a baby quilt for the shower. When she opened it, she
said she didn't need any more blankets that her mother crochet
her some. This is a girl going to college. What happened to
appreciation and good manners?

very pretty