It is hurtful, but I am sure they didn't intend to hurt. Most likely they just were never taught that Thank-You notes are proper, and a phone call is even better.

The quilts and ornaments are very lovely, I am sure they like them, just don't have the ettiquette to let you know.

It is true sometimes people do not like what is recieved, and it is definitely true most people don't understand the cost or time put into a quilt, so we just need decide how much we want approval, or if we give becuase it makes us feel good.

I began a quilt for someone, who didn't know I was making it. Before I was able to get it done, the occasion was over, and he went all loopy and now I don't feel he deserves a quilt. It is the most expensive and about the prettiest (masculine pretty in batiks) that I have ever done (except for Butterfly Prayers). Now, I have a $200 quilt done except for a tiny bit of FMQ and binding - and don't know who to give it to. Every time I think of someone, I think "but are they worth $200 and all the time I spent on this quilt?".

I hope they call or send a TY note. The quilts are beautiful.

After reading all of this I agree a gift is a gift but if I send something to someone no matter what it is I would at least like to know they received it or I would be calling to see if they did.

You can send me a quilt and I'll call you the day I get it and thank you thank you thank you. LOL

They are beautiful.

Any time I send a package, I always call ahead and let them know its on it's way and ask that they let me know that it arrived so I don't worry that it's been lost or stolen. I don't expect thanks, just confirmation of arrival. Maybe that will work for you. Sorry about your disappointment. Your work is really pretty and I love your dove ornaments. I've copied them so I can try to duplicate them. Did you use a pattern?

Those are amazing. I agree with others that a gift is a gift, however, I would make a quick call and make sure the package was received. If they got it, then your know in your heart you have done all you could, if not contact the post office ASAP so they can help track it. BTW, if either decide they don't want their quilt...I would be more then gracious for you to gift to me. ;) J/K!!! HUGS!!!

Lois, I know exactly how you're feeling. Last year I sent both of my nephews a box full of my homemade soaps. At least 10-15 bars each. All different scents and colors...because I know they like my soap. I KNOW that they received the boxes and months went by and I heard NOTHING. I was very hurt because I put a lot of time and effort into making those soaps and giving them the best looking bars...for what???? Not even an acknowledgement that they received it? I've spoken with both of them now and they know how I feel, so in the future they know to give me a ringy dingy to say thanks. If anyone ever took the time to make me a quilt or homemade gift I'd be thrilled and over the moon. You bet your bottom dollar I'd be giving them my thanks and appreciation!

People have no idea of the cost, to say nothing of the time and effort it takes to make a quilt.

I hope they are just busy and will at least call.

If it were me ....and I have with our family members....they do not get a gift any more...just a $1 store card...period!!

The quilts are beautiful and you should call ASAP. When you know they got them, chalk it up to lesson learned and don't even send them a card again. When they bring it up (like they probably will) just tell them why they don't get gifts anymore. With all the forms of communication now, a thank-you should not be a problem. I would be hurt,too. Part of the joy of making it is seeing, or hearing, how happy they are to have it. If you don't feel it's liked, or appreciated it takes a lot of the joy away from you.

I don't consider a simple "I got your gift, thank-you." payment. It's common courtesy and consideration.

Beautiful quilts!

I absolutely agree!

Your gifts are beautiful but the purple quilt is to die for. Love them all.

Do you think she was "afraid" to use it? Some people appreciate it so much they may think they shouldn't use it because of all the work that went into it. They are afraid they will ruin it. I gave my brother a quilt when he went through chemo and his first comment was "I'm not supposed to use this, right?" I set him straight-"you damn well better use it -that's why I made it for you! " He does use it I'm happy to say.

Beautiful quilts!!!!

Dear Lois, I completely understand and sympathize. Why not email a link to this post? Then they'll get it. The quilts are simply lovely as are the ornaments. What a shame they are so rude.

I feel for you. Unfortunately, it seems that for the majority, manners have gone by the wayside in our fast-pased world. As a child, we were not allowed to use/enjoy any gift until we had composed a written thank you and had it ready for mailing. With computers and e-mail, I simply cannot excuse this type of behavior. :thumbdown:

I t's a lazy world we live in today. even picking up the phone today to say thank you is to much of an effort.

I don't blame you for being hurt, I would be hurt too. I don't think that parents today teach their kids respect anymore. But if your sister in law didn't send a thank you you probably wasn't surprised with the kids not sending a thank you. I am very fortunate that both of my kids have taught their kids respect. We have bought baby gifts and wedding gifts and we never even got a call, card, or a thank you. UNREAL!!!! Our parents taught us better than that. I am sorry for your hurt. Don't go out of your way for those that do not appreciate such beautiful work that you put into your gifts. God Bless You Lura

Wonderful!!!

Your gifts are beautiful! It is a much different society than it was in our day!

Your quilts are gorgeous and how lucky anyone would be to have these to snuggle up with. Nice job! Also, I love your Christmas ornaments -just beautiful.

I believe in karma - good will come back to you. Continue doing what you think is right - you will be repaid in kind.

Those are beautiful quilts. Most people who don't quilt have any idea how much work or money goes into a quilt. I have been disappointed a couple of times when giving a quilt but just hope that someday they will realize how much love and work went into it.

Dont beat your self up about how other people react or usually dont react, some people just dont have proper manners to at least thank someone for a gift. Just dont send them anything and Ill bet you get a call. DEB

Your work is beautiful on all the items posted. I too had a nephew not appreciate a gift made for him and his wife. I vowed to never again gift them anything. Hold your head high, there are those yet whom do appreciate the handwork we do.

I feel your pain. I have several family members that unless I call them and ask if they got my gift, there is no acknowledgment . And then most times they say oh yea I got it........ I send gift cards now so I know they use them and they can get what they would like, I long ago quit sending other gifts because if they didn't like them who knows where they went. It's a bit disheartening they were not raised this way. I keep thinking someday they will sanp out of it but I have my doubts.

Unfortunetly, some people think that a homemade gift is inferrior to a store bought gift, or even money. They have never attempted a craft, or have no atistic abilities! I never put time into a quilt as a gift unless I KNOW that the reciever has expressed an interest in my work. Sad, but true.

Your quilts are beautiful. If you don't hear from them then store bought is the way to go or gift card or better yet nothing at all! I just don't make quilts for people for that reason.

Sorry about your inconsiderate niece and nephew. I would have thanked you profusely.

Sorry, I have experienced the same thing. I made a special quilt for my great neice's first christmas w/a
matching pillow case this is August still no thank you
I blame the parents that have raised them.
My parents always made sure Thank You notes or
calls were made no matter how large or small the gift

Your quilts are beautiful! I would not make them anything else though. Give them to someone who appreciates them.

I do the same thing time and time again. I make and give and do not get acknowledged. Then I wonder why I do it at all. I've changed my list...in my head...of who gets my quilts. Only those who appreciate it get one now. It narrows the list alot. Your quilts are beautiful and I appreciate looking at them and all the others on this board.

What absolutely BEAUTIFUL quilts!! WOW. Perhaps they are in shock with how nice they are. Maybe they are writing wonderful thank you letters. :) You should be very proud of what you did. I know your feelings are hurt, and mine I'm sure would be, too. Your hard work really paid off.

Love this! I hope you don't mind me quoting you sometime. We can't expect others to provide us with joy. We need to find it for ourselves. Yes you should receive a thank you but..............

in general, i think thank you's are not given as much as they used to be. give the gifts with love. you may be surprised to learn that they are used and used.

Don"t assume that they don't love and appreciate them. They probably do and have just been caught up in their busy lives. I bet the next time they see you they'll thank you. However I do agree that calling them to make sure they really arrived would not be out of line.
I sent a beautiful baby quilt to a nice and nephew last year and didn't hear from them for months. I worried that they hadn't received it also but then my SIL (she didn't know I'd sent them a quilt) said she had seen them at a family gathering and asked where they got the beautiful baby quilt and they told her I'd made it. My SIL said it was just gorgeous. I was very relieved that they had gotten it and were using it. Then a couple months later I got a lengthy Thank you letter from them with an apology for the lateness and saying how much they loved the quilt and how the baby slept with it every night.
So keep the faith...I don't know how they couldn't love those beautiful quilts you sent them.

Why is it that people cannot be considerate enuf to acknowledge a gift with a sincere 'thank you'? Seems like that should be a fairly easy thing to do. For some reason most of the younger generation do not feel it necessary to acknowledge a gift and say a simple 'thank you'!

I love both of your quilts. The joy is in the giving. I was hurt when I gave my nieces little one a quilt for her first birthday and all I got was a text message thank you. I figured I put more effort into making the quilt than she did in her quick thanks. A phone call would have been nice.

It's just common courtesy to acknowledge a gift. If they don't, I wouldn't bother to send them any more. It's sad that's happened in this day and age.