That is just awful! My heart breaks for you. People don't realize how much time and effort and love go into these quilts that we make for them.
I think it is just beautiful, and for Pete's sake what's more patriotic than red, white and blue?

I'm sending you great big hugs! You could come have a cup of tea and cookies and we could talk about it....My mother was like that, so I have a bit of an idea how it feels.

One of the things I learned though was that her comments along those lines came from not knowing how to receive gifts, compliments, etc....she always needed to be the 'in charge', giving one, otherwise she did not know what to do with herself.

I am sorry, though, because no matter how you can rationalize it, that kind of parental rejection really, really hurts.

More hugs.

(((((((((((((((taiboo))))))))))))

That is so cruel. I love it! I think anyone that see's it will
appreciate the work and love you brought into your quilt.
I would say "Dad" you really hurt my feelings, but if you
really don't want my quilt, I will give it a good home.

My s.o. made us a lovely Thanksgiving dinner - roast turkey, cornbread dressing, mashed Yukon potatoes and a special green bean casserole (not the mushroom soup kind) with fresh green beans and toasted almond slivers.
We loaded up the car and transported it to his parents house (they are in their 80's & don't get out much) - his Dad took a few bites and Justin said, "How is it Dad?" - his Dad replied, "Not bad".
Of course his feelings were really hurt.
Parents can be like that...your wall hanging is beautiful-take heart!

My Husband's grand-father served in WWI. My father served in WWII. My husband's uncle was killed in Vietnam. My husband served during Vietnam. My oldest son is serving now and getting ready to deploy for his fourth hardship tour, this time going to Afganistan. Our youngest son dives for the Navy. Our nephew (husband's side) is getting ready to deploy for the first time. And our nephew-in-law (my side) just got back from Afganistan.

I would be proud to hang your quilt.

Beautiful! And it's as patriotic as it can get!
Maybe he was just having an "off" day?

I know it's difficult but you need to let it go. I'm speaking from experience. My dad re-married 17 yrs ago and I made a king size pinwheel quilt as a wedding gift. I live in CA and he was in PA and in all the visits to them I never saw it on a bed. Dad divorced a few months ago and I expressed the importance of bringing it with him when he moved to So. Cal. He said he didn't care about it and it might be easier to just sell it at a garage sale. I was flabbergasted and told him to bring it with him and I would drive down and get it. Well, when I got there it was on my brother's bed. I asked if I could take it home because it meant a lot to me and cost a lot to make. He said it looks good on my brother's bed and that's where it was staying. What could I say? I gave it to him and it was his to do what he wanted with it. I left it there but have decided he doesn't care or value my quilts so I won't make another for him. Doesn't mean I love him any less. So leave it with your dad -- he may change his mind. You never know, you might find it on the back of his chair or couch. You made it from your heart and that's all that matters.

I love your quilt. It is beautiful. I am sorry your feelings were hurt.

A lovely quilt it is. hugs

If he is older, sometimes they just don't think before they say something. My dad got like that when he got older, My mom did too, things she never would have said when she was younger, just came out. I'm sorry I know it hurts. You did a wonderful job. Sometimes you cannot win no matter what you do. Keep Quilting. I think it is beautiful!!!

I'm sorry. I can understand that as my dad would do the same so he doesn't see or get things I make as he is so critical. Maybe one of your siblings if you have one could help with that or maybe you can express your hurt to him at some point. I haven't been able to so I just avoid.
It was a beautiful piece and is his loss on so many levels.

I think it's very pretty

I really like it...try not to take it to heart too much...
My mom is that way, I just had to learn to get a stiff upper lip...but it still hurts.

I understand your hurt. My Dad used to say hurtful uncaring things to me, never spent any time with just me but had plenty of time for my five brothers. I offered to take him fishing one time when he said he really wanted to go but couldn't use a boat by himself anymore. Well we had a beautiful pontoon boat just made for fishing and we lived on a lake. I often took it out by myself to fish for the day. When I told him I would take him, he said 'Why would I want to fish with a girl when I have five boys I can fish with." I cried inside but said nothing to him. I later told my DH and he made me understand that I am valuable even if my Dad can't see it. I was in my 40s at the time. So I hope you don't let this hurt you for too long. You are a valuable person no matter what your dad said. And a big hug to both of us. It must still hurt me a little or I wouldn't have brought it up.

What a sweet man. He thought of something that he knew was important to you to make you feel better. :)

{{{{{[HUG}}}}} I am so sorry. I love your wall hanging, it is very patriotic and very well done. You couldn't have done any better.

It's too bad your father didn't realize how hurtful his words and actions were to you. It is a beautiful little quilt and you should be proud of it. I did notice with my parents that as they got older, they said things that never would have been uttered when they were younger. I always said I would write myself a letter to remind myself of things I would never do when I was old. I better start now!

HUGGS...so sorry he did not like it .. u did a SUPER job.. dont let this stop u from quilting

I know the feeling on that one. Many years ago I was making Sweat shirts for family members for christmas and my mom told me the same thing. She said it was the most hideous thing she had ever seen and received. I was heart broken. It took me a while to get over that but I did.

It should have been the thought that counted and not what you received....at least that is how she raised us...but apparently she forgot she taught as that.

I did remind her that she taught us that......that the giving is in the heart and the thought that one remembers another on special occasions. She never responded back to it.

Personally I would talk to your dad about his behavior and that what you created was from the heart celebrating him and that his behavior is unacceptable. And if he does not respond to it either just take a deep breath and say "oh well N-E-X-T". That is what I had to do with my mom.

Guess he's not hoping for a lap quilt !

I feel for you, as I have the same type of father. What I particularly like about your quilt is the use of the flag fabric as a border - and you can't get any more patriotic than that! Keep quilting, keep showing us your lovely quilts and give your father a jar of salted nuts next time.

wow im so sorry .you did a wonderful job on it. i love it and would hang it up in my home so don,t it get to you cheer up your quilt is beautiful

I think its pretty. Send it to me - I'll hang it up!

I think it is stunning and certainly very patriotic. I don't give many quilts as gifts because I find most non-quilters have no idea how much of ourserlves goes into the making of one. I'm so sorry you were hurt. I am very proud of your accomplishment. :-)

Omg just saw this haven't read other posts you did a star even?!!! He was cruel and abusive. Perhaps he has problems we don't understand but (((hugs))) to you

I think it's beautiful and I think you should take it back and hang it in your home. It's your first. Kind of like first born child!

It's a beautiful quilt, very patriotic. I'm sorry he hurt your feelings, here's hoping he will rethink his words.

I think it's his problem...not yours!
Your quilt is wonderful!

Sorry for your pain. Is he usually like this? If thats his manor you need to just say oh well, and go on. I think its very patriotic and would hang it in my house!

I'm speechless! I hope I NEVER EVER say something like that to ANYONE! I am so sorry and hugs are sent your way. I think it is very nice, very patriotic and you did a great job. I have no doubt it was all done from your heart! Hugs to you!

His lack of gratitude is harsh...I'm very sorry for you. I think it looks good and I'm not just saying it in hopes that it will make you feel better. It's unfortunate when parents treat their children like that; I try to tell myself that they're people just like us and screw up just as bad or worse. You can always take it back and give it to someone who will appreciate it.

It's Beautiful!!! And you did an awesome job. It's just not his style. Don't take it personal. Just know that there are a lot of people that have no idea how much time and effort goes into a quilt. It's truly a gift of labor to make a quilt and give it away. We must be selective. Quilts are not for everyone.
I have been burned too...
My adult son hand delivered this quilt to his boss, first time parents. They never acknowledged recieving it. Don't know if they liked it or hated it. But a thank you would have been nice. Years later, it still stings to think about it. It's too bad that we can forget just about anything, but we always remember what hurts us. Life is too short, we gotta move on, and learn the lessons that pain teaches us without harboring bitterness.

Your quilt is absolutely beautiful - it is *his* loss that he does not appreciate it (or cannot express his appreciation).

Please do not let this dissuade you from quilting. You obviously have a talent for it, and there is the potential for you to receive great joy from this hobby!

Sending you a big hug

I think it looks very patriotic.I'm am soooo sorry for the hurt this is causing you. I have to think that sometimes people really don't realize how things sound coming out of their mouths. Even parents. It looks like you did a great job, so don't let this slow you down.
Tammy

That is an awesome quilt. I'm sorry your Dad reacted as he did. Hopefully he was just having a bad day and will have it hanging up the next time you go over.

When I first saw the title, I thought how peculiar as it sounded like one a while back. LOL little did I know it is from last year. Sure does get the dander up, doesn't it?
30 pages worth. Your poor dad.

Kimberlie,
Chalk it up to the fact that some people just don't "get" creativity or art...your work was beautiful and you honored him by making it for him...if he chooses to react that way, it's his issue, not yours...don't let it stop you from being creative...

Are we Sisters Rhonda? My Mom does exactly the same thing when I make her something. She just complains that I should have done this or that. Then just goes and puts it out of sight. I am a perfectionist - happily because of her and my Dad but it is never to her standards. I love to sew for my MIL, she adores the things I make for her. Her favourite gift is flannel nightgowns that I sew for her every year. Her children know not to buy her gowns as she makes it well known that she will only wear the ones I make for her.

I love your quilt and the blocks look beautiful. Next time you are there take it back. Someone else would love it. You did a beautiful job.