My mother had her second family when she was 36 (my younger brother and I). She had older children at the time that were 16 and 18. My brother and I were raised differently then the first two. My mother resented us and constantly told us that. I can see where a child raised by either older parents or grandparents would have a different home life. I went through high school..an old soul. It is a scary thought to imagine having to take over raising my granddaughter. I am 53..and education is different, thoughts and ideas are different. I love her dearly and would do what I had to do. It takes great courage to take that on. Blessings to all of you who are doing it.
Peace and Blessings