I appreciate where you're coming from but I come from an opposite circumstance. I'm the only divorced person. Sometimes it isn't about what you can do. I stayed and stayed and stayed but if the other person is unwilling to change, then there's nothing you can do. I wanted and wished to be like my parents and grandparents. So I"m in a situation I never ever expected to be in. He regrets it now but you can't turn back time.