My mom died when I was 11 and I was left with a VERY strict dad to bring me up. Well, he "drug" me up. I didn't DARE say or do anything wrong. He would give me the "look" and that was all it took.
IMHO today's parents are too lenient and worried that their child won't "like" them or be their friend.
Parents are parents, not friends. Children want and need guidance. My son - - now 30 - - told me not too long ago that he NOW understands "what was going on back then and why he had a curfew and restrictions". So it took many years for validation, but it paid off in the end. He is now a successful businessman, married with 2 kiddos of his own, who I think are being brought up the right way.
'Nuf said.