Chris,
I am sorry you have been treated this way. I have been in a few other guilds that have had male members and I used to teach quilting classes, and would occasionally get a male student. I love having men in the quilting world because I find they have such a different perspective than women and I find that quite interesting. I live in central Indiana. I don't know how close you are but if there is any thing I can do to help, let me know. If you are close to Indy, we have a great guild with at least 2 male guild members. We would be happy to have you join us.