Update: A few days ago my mil called and cancelled Christmas due to my fil health and the two sils decided that their families are too busy to get together anywhere else. My dh and I will spend this week dropping off the Christmas gifts to all (unannounced arrivals). I am sorry that my fil health is so bad to get together but it is sad that the rest of the family doesn't have time to get together. (i feel that my fil will not be around much longer :( due to his health) I thought holidays were meant to spend with family and to celebrate Jesus' birth. Somewhere this has been lost on too many of my dh's side. I still love my in-laws (quirks and attitudes and all) and my inner "Santa" wants them to enjoy their gifts and the holidays.