I just happened onto this and I am ever so glad you spoke up and just said what was going on. bless you and may things get better.
Last year we had a member that had "life to get in the way" and she just disappeared! I even wrote her a letter and apparently she just couldn't bring herself to come back. that's so sad. Good for you for having courage. We've all had 'stuff' and had to say our mea culpa's. ;-)