Well if he is taking them out to check on them he must care about them. some people are under the impression that quilts are to delicate to use. maybe you should take one that you have made for yourself a simply lap quilt and throw it around " on your chair on the floor where ever so he can get the hint. or better yet make him a simple lap quilt " is he a football fan , was he in the service ect. ect. just buy material that has something like that on it that he likes and make a simple lap quilt. Now my hubby wasen't using his either very often and I picked up a couple of those lap throws and he uses it all the time. I am thinking for the same reason I do" is that they are very lightweight and since we are living in n.c. now we don't get as cold as we did when we lived in Idaho. so you might have to take several things into consideration.