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Thread: How do you guys get your DHs to USE the quilt ya made them??

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    Seriously, this is a huge issue here at my house. Hubby refuses to actually use a quilt I make for him, says "I don't want anything to happen to it." Now don't get me wrong here, I really appreciate the sentiment in his words but did not spend weeks and even months on a quilt designed just for him for it to be stashed in the closet. Never to be used or hardly even seen. He brings them out maybe twice a year to fluff them in the dryer(air cycle of course) or just lays them on beds to air them out then it's right back to the closet to be hidden. He has 2 of them now and I am working on a Harry Potter one for him now but, it's really hard to get into the swing of making it if it's just gonna end up in the closet with the others. So, just how do you guys get them to use it??

    First quilt I ever made, I kinda see why he hides this one LoL!
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    It's not a problem here. I make quilts. I toss them in the living room. They migrate all over the house.

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    Yeah, it's like that with my kids. They are always running off with one I made. I just can't get him to use any of them. Grrr!!

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    That is why I sometimes like to think of myself as a blanket maker. I want my quilts used. Here we have 2 small dogs - so you bet they get used! :)

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    Don't make him anymore, apparently he is not gonna use them. LOL!!!
    My Dh uses the one I made for him infact the other day I told him that it needed to be washed. As soon as he got home from work he asked if I had washed it so he could sit and watch tv under it.
    I only like to make quilts for those who will use them.

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    I don't have that problem either. DH uses his and I actually find myself cringing when he just leaves it piled on the couch, or lets the kids sit all over it. I don't say anything though, it's his quilt to do with as he pleases. It was made to be used, I just use things a little more lightly than he does. :)

    I'd say you should pull his quilts out of the closet and put them on the couch. Tell him if they get ruined you'll make him a new one. Plenty more where they came from! :)

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    Quote Originally Posted by cjomomma
    Don't make him anymore, apparently he is not gonna use them. LOL!!!
    My Dh uses the one I made for him infact the other day I told him that it needed to be washed. As soon as he got home from work he asked if I had washed it so he could sit and watch tv under it.
    I only like to make quilts for those who will use them.
    LoL! I tell him that before I begin each one and he swears he will use it. But then he decides it is "..just to special" to use. I think HP will be the last if he doesn't use it. I started it last spring and am only about halfway done. It's all 5 1/2" pp blocks. Just burns my butt that he won't use 'em. Thanks for letting me vent a bit, you guys are so awesome!!

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    I have that exact issue with my family , everything I give them ends up be saved, even potholders. This year I made them give me a potholder ( I had made) with some ... food, gravy, anything to show they had used them. It was a condition for them getting the quilts I had made them( they did not know what they were getting) . I told them all if they did not use them, they could donate them , but if they kept them ... I would come to their house and spill something on it myself if I found them in a closest! They finally got the message.

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    LoL @ Lori!!

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    It's sweet that he "treasures" them so well. But I can understand your frustration, too.

    I'm grateful I learned to quilt with Mary Ellen Hopkins who wrote "It's Okay if You Sit on My Quilt (Because I Can Make Another)" because her philosophy has colored my perception of the life and strength in my work and the quilts.

    Perhaps you yourself might take one out and drape it across the back of the sofa "for winter use" or display. See if he actually fights you over that.

    Otherwise, I guess you could ask him if he is saving them for his *next* wife!

    Jan in VA

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jan in VA
    Otherwise, I guess you could ask him if he is saving them for his *next* wife!

    Jan in VA


    :shock: :lol: That's too funny!!

    I wonder if it would be possible to put a sleeve on the Trek quilt?? It is almost king-size though, maybe too heavy to hang? Or is there a way to hang quilts that big?

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    This is a great idea...use it as a wall hanging
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jan in VA
    Otherwise, I guess you could ask him if he is saving them for his *next* wife!

    Jan in VA


    :shock: :lol: That's too funny!!

    I wonder if it would be possible to put a sleeve on the Trek quilt?? It is almost king-size though, maybe too heavy to hang? Or is there a way to hang quilts that big?

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    Since I am the the quilter in the family and I am a male quilter guy, I have the same problem. My wife wants to display them instead of using them. I told her on the cold winters night she should snuggle up with one while watching TV, but she said it would get them dirty. I want them to be used and enjoyed. At least my son and his family when they come over, they snuggle in them when they are relaxing and watching TV. Glenn

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    Quote Originally Posted by PJisChaos
    Quote Originally Posted by Jan in VA
    Otherwise, I guess you could ask him if he is saving them for his *next* wife!

    Jan in VA


    :shock: :lol: That's too funny!!

    I wonder if it would be possible to put a sleeve on the Trek quilt?? It is almost king-size though, maybe too heavy to hang? Or is there a way to hang quilts that big?
    Sure there is! I have had large wooden hearts mounted to a backing board - sorry description - that is hung high on a wall. The quilt is gathered up fan-style in threaded thru a space between the heart and the back, leaving a small fan-shaped fluff above the heart, and a then the rest of the quilt is draped/hung/fanned out below the heart.

    In the drawing, the heart is *absent* so that you can see how the quilt (in yellow) goes up thru the parts of the hanger (in brown and black.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glenn
    Since I am the the quilter in the family and I am a male quilter guy, I have the same problem. My wife wants to display them instead of using them. I told her on the cold winters night she should snuggle up with one while watching TV, but she said it would get them dirty. I want them to be used and enjoyed. At least my son and his family when they come over, they snuggle in them when they are relaxing and watching TV. Glenn
    So glad to know that someone shares my pain, or frustration here. :wink:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glenn
    Since I am the the quilter in the family and I am a male quilter guy, I have the same problem. My wife wants to display them instead of using them. I told her on the cold winters night she should snuggle up with one while watching TV, but she said it would get them dirty. I want them to be used and enjoyed. At least my son and his family when they come over, they snuggle in them when they are relaxing and watching TV. Glenn
    Hey, Glenn,
    Tell her it makes you feel like you are watching yourself with your arms around her when she snuggles in one of your quilts. Say it with "love stars" in your eyes; that'll get her!

    Jan in VA

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    We use our quilts here. But I haven't made one special for him. I am always snuggled under a blanket but he's always hot so hardly ever has a blanket on him except when sleeping.

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    My husband only uses my quilts is they are on our bed. I will put the one I am working on over the quilt rack and if he is cold he will grab it and cover up while in his chair. However, this is Arizona and we don't get to cold.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jan in VA
    Sure there is! I have had large wooden hearts mounted to a backing board - sorry description - that is hung high on a wall. The quilt is gathered up fan-style in threaded thru a space between the heart and the back, leaving a small fan-shaped fluff above the heart, and a then the rest of the quilt is draped/hung/fanned out below the heart.

    In the drawing, the heart is *absent* so that you can see how the quilt (in yellow) goes up thru the parts of the hanger (in brown and black.

    Jan in VA
    Ermm, I kinda get what you are saying but not the pic. Sorry, but are there easier "PJ proof" ways to hang a king? :oops:

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    Maybe if you start using it then he will too.

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    Can't get my dh to use his either!!

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    I don't know. i made one for my girl friend and my hubby wanted it. then i made him another one and he never used it either!!

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    As i write this my DH is snuggled in the recliner under the flannel quilt I made him, reading his nook. It's 11 degrees right now and is supposed to get down to 4 degrees tonight. We also keep our thermostat down to save on the gas bill so maybe that's another reason why he uses it a lot.

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    My husband falls asleep on the sofa every night while I watch tv or chat on the computer. As soon as he dozes off, I toss his quilt over him and Cotton (our Maltese) climbs on top. Then I curl up on the other sofa. Everyone's happy!

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    Maybe he doesn't want to use the two because neither one could be replaced...your first quilt and one made from his Trek shirts. Perhaps if you made him one that is not as "special," he would be more willing to use it.

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