First and formost you both as individuals and as a couple need to seek God and make him Lord of your life. He will see you through. We have been married 23 years and through more then most have. We have had some very rocky times and times we wanted to throw it all away. We have learned time and time again that when you take that additude of divorce as an answer you are not commited. There is so much givig and taking and it needs to be done in love. Our pastor just did a great sermon on this- will see if I can get a link to it if anyone is interested