After 56 years, I'm still trying to figure it out!LOL But, we had common goals( our children) and making things work for all of us. Lots of tears, good and bad times, and probably above all else, lots and lots of prayers that God would help us keep our love strong enough to weather anything. And like my dad told us, never go to sleep without kissing goodnight, hard to stay mad when you do that!!LOL