I want to thank everyone who has given me some wonderful advice. I thank you all for your support. Unfortunately my choice of words, such as "consent", has painted such an awful image of my wonderful husband. This is the man who took care of me hand and foot during my mastectomy when I was only 28 yrs old when he could have easily walked away from me. But yet even after 5 years have past he still makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world although I have a scar on my chest. When I posted my message I felt I could receive some good advice from my QB friends. Thankfully I did and I truly appreciate the words of support and encouragment. But I should have known that I also would receive some very critical and judgmental opinions.