I echo sailsablazin's sentiments. I don't think the respondents (all female I believe) were truly critical or judgemental, just protective. Sometimes condensing our responses can make us seem less sympathetic. Between us all we have racked up a huge amount of experience, and many have had to deal with more than their fair share of difficulties. I know personally, if I can help another person avoid some of the dramas I've had to deal with I will...anyway, wishing you and your husband the best for the future.