Originally Posted by Karen Powell
....I guess I could by pass him up and do it my self. I love him and dont want him to feel disrespected. ....So seriouly feeling traped.
Whoa!!!! You don't want HIM feeling disrepected....what about his lack of respect for YOU!!!!
Change your thinking thus change your actions. If you can't afford to have someone in to finish the room, then "bargain" with your DH (D up for interpretation here!) by going halfway on things he's come to count on you for.
His laundry - get it to the machine, soap added, but not started;
his dinner - set out what was to be made, do what you can that won't be too costly to waste, then stop before finishing; gas the car with only a couple gallons;
if you pay the bills - write the checks but don't put them in the envelops or stamp them;
vacuum one room and leave the vacuum in the middle of the floor;
same with cleaning the bathroom, etc.;
think of things you can do halfway that will get his attention.
I feel for you, been there done that, and am now divorced. :(
I don't reccomend that recourse, but getting his attention is definitely in order. What if you asked some other DH to help you!
Jan in VA