For her to ask your help is something that must have been hard knowing who it is for. Though this may be tough make every moment of it with your daughter and help her to see that even amid this tough choice you are a loving classy Mom who is better then bitter resentment even though you may not be thrilled with it. Think about it as if you're looking back on it years from now. You will always have that twing of regret hanging over you. Besides, that quilt may be what your daughter and maybe someday a grandchild wraps around them treasuring it as an expression of you that even in the really tough times you were there.