You've received a jillion comments on this, including one of mine already, but I have one more thing to say. The fact that you wrote in to ask about this says to me that you are a great mom, and whatever you decide, even if it means saying "no", you are still a great mom, the bigger person, and you are still "taking the high road"! Every divorce is different, and speaking as one who has been thru it, only you can really know what is right for you! There are plenty of other ways to show your daughter you love her if you opt out of this one. God Bless!