For me, my points have to match, etc. I wish they didn't because I think it slows down the quilting process. But that doesn't stop me from quilting. If there's something you don't like in a quit as it progresses, change it - see my Two Quilts in One post in the picture forum. If you are not pleased with the lovely star quilt, start a new thread asking for ideas. The center is wonderful, but I can see why the border is a problem for you right now.
Start somewhere and know it's okay to be a perfectionist. We perfectionists put off starting because we feel we can't be perfect - it's a vicious circle, but we can work through it. One corner of the binding on my red quilt wouldn't behave. I had to settle for good enough - but you know what? It's finished, my daughter loves it and life is good.