Is this person someone you care enough about to make them a quilt? Part of the process for me is thinking about the person while I'm making the quilt or dress, or curtain, or costume, or whatever it is. If it is someone I love, it's enjoyable. If not, I kind of feel resentful at times. Go with your heart. If you want to consider it a gift, go for it! Just take the fabric she gives you and if you don't want it, quietly give it away. Just my 2 cents worth.