Originally Posted by
Wonnie
I so agree with Tothill. The choice of how much to spend for a wedding gift is up to the "giver". Once decided , you cannot dictate how the gift is used. When it leaves your hands it becomes "theirs" to use ( or not ) as they see fit. Your choice of design, fabric, etc., no matter how exquisitely made, may not be theirs. Young people have very definite ideas as to how they choose to decorate their homes these days. What good is a gift if you have to keep it tucked inside a drawer or cedar chest carefully wrapped inside of acid free paper for the rest of its life.
Many people like to keep their finer things such as their best china, real silverware, etc. reserved and not use it for each every day meal. They like to know that when they want their meal or their home to look its very best, their china will not have chips on the plate edges, the quilts will not have rips from the pet's claws, etc. They have a difference in their everyday things and in their best things. Some people do not. Some people use their best things on a regular basis - such as when friends come for dinner or all the family comes. Others do not. Some do not want to reserve anything for a special occasion and others find no occasion more special than everyday life.
For some people to find their quilts used in the garage as oil cloths would be an example of "pearls before swine."
Apparently other people would not be bothered at all. Go figure.