Susan, I agree - Meadow is now part of you and should be included. But, that being said, perhaps aunt is worried about fur and such associated with animals - bet she doesn't have any! She may not realize how much you depend on Meadow for every day living. I agree with Vicki - talk with her first before you make any decisions - then, if you "boycott" gathering, it's for good reasons. Come have the holidays with me in Tennessee - I'd love to have you, hubby AND Meadow!