Well, I had this happen to me Saturday as a matter of fact. Helped throw a surprise BD party and I made the gift, quilt. I posted the picture here last week, it was a tube block quilt and got lots of praise for it here. The other 2 girls love it too. But the BD girl looked so disappointed when she opened it. One of the other ladies got kind of offended and said that if BD girl didn't want it, she would take it and the BD girl (kidding I guess) said she could have it.
I agree, once a quilt is given, it is no longer mine. I can bet that that quilt will not be displayed anywhere in her home LOL
I would not say a word if it were me and at least act very happy with it because I know how much work went into it.