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Should We Expect Others To Love Our Quilts Also?

Old 01-30-2010, 03:55 PM
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We search for the right fabric, the right pattern and put many hours into the creation of a quilt that we are so proud to give to a beloved or a friend. Just because we put so much time and energy into a project, should we expect someone to feel the same about the quilt that we do? An associate is unhappy that the quilt that she gave to a family member is not appreciated the way she felt it should be appreciated nor is it on display in their home. Who knows the reason the quilt was not displayed or being used but when she showed the quilt to us there was mixed responses. I for one loved the pattern and her quilting was wonderful but HATED the color combination but of course I would never tell her that, I mentioned the things about the quilt that I liked and congratulated her on completing the project. She is really upset over the lack of appreciative responses.

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Would you tell someone if you didn't like their efforts (me no way)? And second, should we expect others to love our quilts just because we do?
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Old 01-30-2010, 03:58 PM
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Everyone's tastes are so different, not every pattern, or fabric combination is to another's liking. I believe that those of us who quilt and work with fabric and pattern realize this and therefore are appreciative of the work and the artistic license that is part of the craft.
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Old 01-30-2010, 04:09 PM
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I think every quilt is beautiful because they are to the eyes of the creator. If they didn't like it they wouldn't have done it. I also don't expect other people to like a quilt made for them, but we should all be polite and express appreciation for a gift because no one HAS to give you anything. At least that is what my grandmother tought me. What makes me mad is when someone begs you to make them a quilt, even tells you that whatever colors you pick are fine, and when you make it they don't even acknowledge receiving it. That doesn't go only for homemade crafts, also for purchased things. Someone too the time and $ to buy me something and get it to me, to my eye that is more than I was expecting. I always appreciate a gift. If I am lucky eneough that is a home made craft, even better.
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Old 01-30-2010, 04:13 PM
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I would never tell someone I didn't like a project they did. You can always find something nice to say. I figure they must be proud of it or they wouldn't show it to you.

No, they don't have to love my quilts, but a little recognition is always nice.
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Originally Posted by MamaBear61
Everyone's tastes are so different, not every pattern, or fabric combination is to another's liking. I believe that those of us who quilt and work with fabric and pattern realize this and therefore are appreciative of the work and the artistic license that is part of the craft.
I agree.
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Old 01-30-2010, 04:56 PM
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I can appreciate the effort that goes into a quilt even if I don't exactly like the quilt. I would never make a negative comment about a finished quilt. If someone asks to help them decide between two borders or such, I just give my opinion.

Quilting is an art. Art is a personal taste. People are never going to agree.
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Old 01-30-2010, 05:18 PM
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When DH and I got married, his Godmother gave us a king size quilt. It isn't a pieced quilt but a cheater cloth but nicely hand quilted. The only problem is that it is all country pink, solid country pink backing, country pink design on front with off white background and quilted with bright pink floss. I still have the quilt but it is on the top shelf of the linen closet waiting for someone who loves country pink.
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Old 01-30-2010, 06:13 PM
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Personally, any item that is hand made I appreciate wether I like it or not, just the fact that they care to take thier time to make something is enough for me. But alot of people do not appreciate this as I do.
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Old 01-30-2010, 06:33 PM
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Years ago my aunt gave me a quilt that her mother in law had made. I thought that was the ugliest thing I ever saw. It was orange satin and had raised flowers on the front. The center of each flower and each petal was stuffed. I guess the trapunto of yesteryear. And it was hand quilted. I look at that quilt today, now that I am a quilter, and really look at the beauty of the quilt. Maybe orange isn't my favorite color but I can certainly appreciate the work and time that went into making it.
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Old 01-30-2010, 06:48 PM
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If I am making a quilt for someone, I will ask them what colors they would like and what they do not want.

If I am making one for a customer, they choose the fabrics.

I agree, everyone has different taste.
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