Irishmom you and the family are most certainly in my prayers. I'm sorry it will be hard. WMUTeach is right it hurts more because they had a life to live that was taken for whatever reason, it's just not right.
NZ, I'm proud of you for knowing there's just not enough of you to go around and seeking the school to help. Like it was previously stated no education system is perfect, but you can supplement if you find they need it. I'm excited for you and the twins. It will all work out in the wash, you just have to be patient enough for it to happen. That's the hard part.
Prayers to you and your family are going up as well.
Fall is here, I am complete! Ahhhhh...