Quilt as a Gift
#41
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Appleton, WI
Posts: 1,008
Yes, I have given them as gifts and yes, as others say "people do not realize the time and effort put into the quilt." Now I only give them to people who know me and understand the hours, thought, time, and love with each stitch.
#43
A few years ago I made a beautiful quilt for my 30 yr. old step-daughter and when I saw it a year later it had 3 cigarette burns on it - she ironed a patch on them. She had a baby last year - I refused to make a quilt for her. I have made 4 quilts for my daughter and she sleeps with them every night. I just assume some people appreciate quilts more than others and leave it at that.
#45
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Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Tallahassee, Fl
Posts: 381
To Pollyv9
I'm glad that your daughter-in-law appreciates the work and beauty of quilts. I'm only sorry that she has but her burden of finding a present on you. I would tell her that since so much time, energy and money go into your quilts you have chosen to give them only to a few chosen people. Each quilt is a gift of yourself. Your daughter-in-law asking for quilts for her family may be irritating because she is taking advantage of you. If she isn't purchasing the supplies and paying you for your time you have become a free source of presents.
It saddens me to read that so many of us have had our giftes taken for granted. Without a simple note of gratitude.
I'm glad that your daughter-in-law appreciates the work and beauty of quilts. I'm only sorry that she has but her burden of finding a present on you. I would tell her that since so much time, energy and money go into your quilts you have chosen to give them only to a few chosen people. Each quilt is a gift of yourself. Your daughter-in-law asking for quilts for her family may be irritating because she is taking advantage of you. If she isn't purchasing the supplies and paying you for your time you have become a free source of presents.
It saddens me to read that so many of us have had our giftes taken for granted. Without a simple note of gratitude.
#46
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 499
I have made two baby quilts for the daughters of friends. I mailed the quilts to the friends to give to the daughters and they emailed to let me know how "fabulous" they were. Never heard a word from the daughters. I don't do that anymore. If I am invited to a baby shower I will make and take one. I have plenty of other elderly folks that need a throw to waste my time and fabric on folks who cannot even thank you. That is my story and I am sticking to it!
#47
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: ne nebraska
Posts: 49
i know all about that notake care of from my youngest daughter made her a quilt that was a difficult pattern and gave it to her she was thrilled & within three months it was hanging up as a room divider with nails holding it up and then i looked at it and there was a cigarette burn hole in it and a big red kool aid stain will be a long time before i make her another one.
#48
Originally Posted by sss
Has anyone ever given a quilt as a gift to someone and after giving the quilt gift you hardly get a thank you? I just don't think people realize the time, work, thought and worry that you put into each quilt you do, especially when it is for someone you think is going to love it. I just finished a retirement quilt for a friend who I work with. We have worked together for 10 yrs. Her thank you to me was, "Your quilt was a big hit!"
Any thoughts on this? I know I should not be upset but I am.
Any thoughts on this? I know I should not be upset but I am.
A simple thank you or in your case the quilt being a big hit, would be more than acceptable for me. I give because I so enjoy the giving. I don't expect a thank you, however I won't turn one down. I give to some individuals knowing they will never appreciate the gift as much as another might, but it makes me feel good to give it anyway. If I didn't get pleasure out of gifting or did it only to get praise, I'd probably stop quilting altogether. What would be the point in just piling up quilts in my own closet? :)
#49
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Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Upper Peninsula of Michigan
Posts: 3
Oh yes, my sister asked if I was going to make a baby quilt for her new Grandbaby so I did. I'm still waiting for a thank you. Her daughter just has another baby and guess what I'm NOT going to make one.
baby bow tie
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