Did you hear any screaming and crying from the NW
#111
Originally Posted by hikingquilter
With teenagers (and I have had 7)just close the door to their room. It's their space. I had rules about no clothes in the bathroom and no food in the bedroom. Everybody did their own laundry by the time they were 12. And yes, if something is found where it shouldn't be, make it disappear! Believe me, they learn. Pick your battles and save your sanity.
#112
Moonwolf, I don't think we are trying to put you down but it's our responsibility to raise children to be responsible adults. I'm 73 now, and I can say from experience, you have to pick your battles with teens. One of those is to respect others. That means your Mother too. so you can see where these mothers are coming from. Maybe you were a neat person and your mom never had to resort to drastic measures, but there are many out there who, if they didn't their children would grow up to be disrespectful adults, who would find out when they get out into the real world that others would not put up with such nonsense. My Daughter has for the most part raised her kids the same way. It's very rewarding to hear one of your kids tell you thanks for caring enough to teach them these lessons. You have to love your kids enough to use whatever tactics you must to raise them right.
#113
Originally Posted by postal packin' mama
A lady I worked with got so exaperated with her kids ignoring her pleas for them to pick up their clothes that she took a staple gun and stapled them to the floor, right where they'd dropped them!
#114
when my kids rooms got too bad - i just closed the door - who needs that kind of agravation? i did teach them to do laundry, and learn to cook fried chicken, crockpot roast, spaghetti and meatloaf. figured they could survive on that. now my daughter is a neat freak and is always finding something in southern living mag or martha stewart to cook. my son is the main cook in his house too. they both enjoy cooking over a camp fire. lol not me.
#115
I had 3 kids in 4 1/2 yrs. No food was allowed in their rooms. Each had a hamper in their room & that was all I washed. I didn't waste my time picking up stuff in their room and if they suddenly didn't have a particular thing washed they had to wait until the next load was being done. No special treatment, they learned to get it into the hamper. When they headed to bed anything they had out went back to their room with them. I didn't nag about their room it was their choice as to how they wanted friends to see their space.
#116
When my husband was overseas for a year and I was basically a 'single mom' of two boys age 12 & 14. I got mad one day. It was Saturday, PMS Saturday, I'd told the boys to bring me their dirty laundry. Ok, they did. In the dirty laundry was clean folded laundry from last week, school books, matchbox cars, shoes, you name it. I yelled at the boys to march right back in the house. Dumped their clothes and said OK, who wants to pay for school books? That day the learned how to do their own laundry and if it wasn't clean for school, don't come cryin to Mama. Never did their laundry after that. To this day at ages 28 & 30, they are thankful to know how to do laundry!
#118
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good for you, how are things now with the teens ???
Originally Posted by Quiltforme
Today after threatening my kids I did it I packed up the clothes left on the floor the makeup on the counter the earings left on the floor and gave them to good will. (ok they are in my laundry room) but man I cannot believe how much crap they had thrown around. I mean really when they go into their bathroom they just sit on the pot take off clothes and leave them there. This has just recently started I warned them and well today I did it. Hopefully they will get it into their heads that their clothes are not my responsibility!!! Ok enough said how do you deal with Teens who do not clean up?? Was I wrong empty threats were not working what motherly words of advice can I get from you??
#119
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Location: Rice Lake, WI
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Originally Posted by hikingquilter
With teenagers (and I have had 7)just close the door to their room. It's their space. I had rules about no clothes in the bathroom and no food in the bedroom. Everybody did their own laundry by the time they were 12. And yes, if something is found where it shouldn't be, make it disappear! Believe me, they learn. Pick your battles and save your sanity.
#120
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Nope you were so right, I would tell my boys, if they did not clean there room, that I was taking a green garbage bag to there rooms and they would not get anything back.
I only had to head down the hall one time with a garbage bag.
I only had to head down the hall one time with a garbage bag.
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