lpsewing

I too like the idea of a comfort quilt @ this times.
It is so about your kindness that will truely mean the world

Roseysue

You're right. The kind warm thought is what will come across

Annz

I would make a lovely quilt from you to her and not a hint of it relating to her Mom. She will probably have a lot of emotions to sort through some which may not be very pleasant. In time you may make a memory quilt based on how you know how she feels about her mom and how she feels about the taking of her own life. If it is something that takes her a long time to really deal with then at least you made a nice momory between you and her at a time of her need.

penski

maybe you could ask her husband what he thinks about you doing that

TN Donna

Having been the daughter of a suicide myself I think it wouod be a great idea but at a later date. Maybe talk to her about her mother first and get some ideas to what to include. I am sure she would enjoy it or you could go ahead if you know enough about her and present the quilt later. Suicide hits pretty hard. We 22 years later found my dad was murdered and it was staged as a suicide.

starshine

I haven't read all the posts so forgive me if I'm repeating. The Memory quilts I've seen are made with some clothing of the deceased.
One of the earlier posts suggested asking for some of her clothing before it is all gone. I think this is a good idea. But wait to give it to her until she is ready for it. You could make it anytime and just put it away for the right time or put the clothing or items to use away (maybe labeled so you don't forget where they are from and purpose). If you have the items you can make it sometime. And if she never is ready for it and you don't ever give it to her, you know it was still an act of caring for her even if it remains unknown to her.

I agree that a comfort quilt-something to just give her comfort right now would be best for now.

PBCHRETIEN

It really too soon for a memory quilt. I suggest just a quilt without titles. Make her a quilt .... JUST BECAUSE. Later on, make her the memory quilt. Give her time to heal and mourn her loss and then to deal.

M.I.Late

I have not read all of the prior posts either, but just to put in my two cents. I would definitely make a comfort quilt only. Maybe at some later time - perhaps way later - you can offer her a memory quilt. You don't have to use her clothing - sometimes pictures are all you have and that's more than enough. Wait and talk to your brother about his wife's relationship with her mother. Sometimes memory quilts are nothing more than crying towels. They're not for everybody - if you don't already know her well enough to know about her relationship with her Mom - concentrate on her relationship with you and make something just for her and let the future take care of itself. Just my personal feelings.

PKITTY1

I think a comfort quilt is the better plan right now. Your DH can ask for some clothing to make the memory quilt at a later date. But...I think maybe your SIL, more than anything, may need a good listener. The quilt is great but any long term illness leaves so many raw emotions. I know how I felt when my Dad died from MS. I'm sorry for your loss and I'll say a prayer for your family.

Lindah20

My neice's 20 year old daughter did this. I made a prayer shawl for my neice. Very simple. Lion Brand yarn has patterns & a great gift card to download on line. It was received warmly. I offered to make a memory quilt when my neice was ready. It's been almost 2 years now and she hasn't wanted it yet.