What would you have done in this situation
04-06-2011, 04:35 AM
#24
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Originally Posted by Quiltforme
I am taking care of my friends cats while she takes her step daughter to Texas to attend her SD's moms funeral. Today there was a notice on their door and their power was shut off. I am at a loss as to what to do. they get home tonight so they will come home to no power. I have know her for 6 years and our kids are best friends. We have never asked or loaned money to each other but if they did ask we would in a minute. I texted her what happened I did not want her to talk about it in front of her family. She has yet to reply. Would you just pay the bill or let them take care of it when they get home. I know that this has to be embarrassing. But things happen and I am not sure how to handle it.
If you can afford it, I would pay her bill..No strings attached..Sometimes money is just too tight and every one needs a helping hand sometimes..It could be that with everything going on, she may of forgot to pay it and will pay you back when she gets home..
04-06-2011, 04:46 AM
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Originally Posted by Quiltforme
I finally talked to my friend with all the funeral planning she had to do before they left she thought she had paid the bill she got it all taken care of lights on when they got home. Thank you all for your help I am the type of person that wants to help everyone out I just didn't think without talking to her that it was my job you all helped me realize this!
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04-06-2011, 05:13 AM
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I would also wait to hear from her. I have seen really bad things happen when friends with the best of intentions helped out friends that seemed to have legitimate need.
I agree about saving the food. Maybe be ready with a warm meal when they get home?
OOPS! So sorry... .now I see all is well and taken care of.
I agree about saving the food. Maybe be ready with a warm meal when they get home?
OOPS! So sorry... .now I see all is well and taken care of.
04-06-2011, 05:23 AM
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Texting her allows her to fix things up, if she is able, before things get out of hand. If she brings up the subject you could offer to help her with the reconnection fee if she is having difficulty.Perhaps she thought spending the money to go to the funeral should take priority.
04-06-2011, 06:48 AM
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I think you've done the right thing so far. If you want to pay a bill for her..please think of it as a "gift" to her, not a loan. That way you won't have any hard feelings when you don't get paid back.
I learned that lesson the hard way years ago. Now when I give money to anyone...I never expect it to be paid back...I do it because I want to help someone out. I know thats what you would be doing as well.
I learned that lesson the hard way years ago. Now when I give money to anyone...I never expect it to be paid back...I do it because I want to help someone out. I know thats what you would be doing as well.
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