what would you do if your daughter came home and said you ex is getting married and ?
11-26-2011, 02:39 PM
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Absolutely do it. Of course everyone's circumstances are different but best possible scenario, on the future occasions when you all have to be together, it's much better to be cordial and your ex and his second wife will remember you helping your daughter to make them something special. Everybody wins. My husband's first wife made us a needlepoint pillow when we married. She wanted to do it, he and I were pleased, the kids were happy about it. We've all been lucky.
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11-26-2011, 02:44 PM
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Hmmm - I'd probably help her but I'd be sure there were red ants in the batting! LOL! Only kidding. Seriously, I'd give her guidance and help where necessary, but make sure she did most of the work herself. This isn't about you. It's about her wanting to make something special for her father and there's nothing wrong with that. No matter what happened between the two of you, he's still her dad. I always want to be one better than others so that no one can ever say anything bad about me. Just think how you will shine in her eyes.
11-26-2011, 02:54 PM
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I say help her. I would do something for DH's ex if my stepson asked. We have a cordial relationship with DH's ex and her family. Though we don't socialize together or spend holidays together, we do sit together at son's ballgames, or whenever the occasion presents itself. I once told DH that it's not about him and it's not about her, but it's ALL about their son, my stepson. He comes first. I'm sure your daughter comes first with you, so jump right in and help her do her best! She will admire you greatly. Good luck!
11-26-2011, 02:59 PM
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OK So everybody has been nice about this til now-my ex not only didn't want to have kids with me, he got remarried within 60 days of the ink drying on our papers and SHE had their first within ( months of that_I say put itching powder in the batting!!!!!(just kidding)
11-26-2011, 05:26 PM
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Originally Posted by walkswithwolves
I would help her. Because it didn't work out between your X and you should not, cause problems between you and your daughter. So hold your head high and say to yourself I can do this.
11-26-2011, 05:30 PM
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I would say it's her Dad and she needs to do what she needs to do. I don't think you need to help. Depends on your relationship w/your ex. Wouldn't be me and I've been there. Give her basic sewing instruction if need be but you don't need to be party to the quilt. JMO
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