Strangest reaction to a quilt---I take the prize!
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My niece like yours is high functioning with Asperger's. We couldn't sing Happy Birthday to her at all when she was younger, she said she didn't want all the words surrounding her. She is working two part time jobs and going to college. She asked me to make her a swirly smooth quilt. I haven't figured that out yet.
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My niece like yours is high functioning with Asperger's. We couldn't sing Happy Birthday to her at all when she was younger, she said she didn't want all the words surrounding her. She is working two part time jobs and going to college. She asked me to make her a swirly smooth quilt. I haven't figured that out yet.
My DS was quite an artist when he was younger - he could do almost 3 dimensional views. I actually wish he would draw now, but as an adult, he has moved on towards other things. He has LDs with some Asperger symptoms, but he is fairly mainstream, his main problem is reading people - he is not always able to pick up on things.
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Maybe it would be a good idea to tell your niece that you're okay with her not loving the quilt and at the same time explain that you made it out of love for her, and mention all the nice thoughts you had about her as you were coming up with the words for each letter of her name. If a lack of empathy is part of what defines Asperger's, then she may need a little spelling out about what making the quilt meant to you. Who knows, when that hits home, she may immediately feel more receptive toward it. The other reason that it would be good to give her a little explanation would be to assure her that whatever she thinks of your quilt, you'll always be her loving aunt. Some of the other young people and maybe even her mom may have shamed her for her reaction as soon as you were out of earshot, and that would be an unintended side effect. It would not make her feel any more kindly toward it either, if that happened.
The other thing to know is that if the quilt had been given to her in a less distracting situation, she might have been able to focus on it differently. A big social gathering is often stressful for people like your niece - too much noise and activity. She may be loving it by now, for all we know. It wouldn't surprise me.
The other thing to know is that if the quilt had been given to her in a less distracting situation, she might have been able to focus on it differently. A big social gathering is often stressful for people like your niece - too much noise and activity. She may be loving it by now, for all we know. It wouldn't surprise me.
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My niece like yours is high functioning with Asperger's. We couldn't sing Happy Birthday to her at all when she was younger, she said she didn't want all the words surrounding her. She is working two part time jobs and going to college. She asked me to make her a swirly smooth quilt. I haven't figured that out yet.
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Maybe it would be a good idea to tell your niece that you're okay with her not loving the quilt and at the same time explain that you made it out of love for her, and mention all the nice thoughts you had about her as you were coming up with the words for each letter of her name. If a lack of empathy is part of what defines Asperger's, then she may need a little spelling out about what making the quilt meant to you. Who knows, when that hits home, she may immediately feel more receptive toward it. The other reason that it would be good to give her a little explanation would be to assure her that whatever she thinks of your quilt, you'll always be her loving aunt. Some of the other young people and maybe even her mom may have shamed her for her reaction as soon as you were out of earshot, and that would be an unintended side effect. It would not make her feel any more kindly toward it either, if that happened.
The other thing to know is that if the quilt had been given to her in a less distracting situation, she might have been able to focus on it differently. A big social gathering is often stressful for people like your niece - too much noise and activity. She may be loving it by now, for all we know. It wouldn't surprise me.
The other thing to know is that if the quilt had been given to her in a less distracting situation, she might have been able to focus on it differently. A big social gathering is often stressful for people like your niece - too much noise and activity. She may be loving it by now, for all we know. It wouldn't surprise me.
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Thanks for sharing....well at any rate your sister will be well-pleased, so that's great.....Not to mention having such a terrific party banner in the form of the quilt. Many of us see the world differently, but keep quiet about it....as someone else said when she has time to see it when there's not so much noise and activity there will be elements she is drawn to.
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