fabric lover

First of all I think you should be very careful, so she doesn't feel 'forced' to do something she doesn't like (too much).
If you make a choice for her and give a pattern with fabrics etc all 'ready to sew' , she could feel pressured to do it as a favor for you and after some time might not want anything to sew anymore at all with the thought " my MIL always wants me to sew" and goes on talking about it.
Why not just be patient, show her what your working on, leave a magazine 'in sight' here and there, traditional and modern etc, but don't start about quilting / sewing every time you see her.
If she likes it, she'll talk about it out of her own one day.
But, IMHO, going on about it and giving projects could turn out very wrong.
I hope you'll get her (or some one else close by) to share your interest.

grann of 6

I have 2 DIL's, one is a DDIL and the other is just DIL. Neither one has an interest in sewing. My DDIL is my enabler, she loves to go to quilt shops with me. She is a graphic artist, and paints, is also embarking on making floorcloths that look like quilts or applique. The DIL has no interest in sharing anything with me, especially my 2 DGD's. I would not think of trying to push either one into a hobby I enjoy unless they express a desire to learn. My DDIL have worked many many years on our relationship. We are very different people but I consider her my best friend. One day she called me and asked, "If your son and I get divorced, will you still be my mother-in-law?" I thought that was the greatest compliment I could ever get. So I would just enjoy your future DIL for what she is, and if she really wants to learn to quilt, let her express it to you. Even my DD does not sew; says she doesn't have to because her mother does. They do enjoy their hand made gifts, though.

calano1

My goodness!! Why did I wait so long before I asked?!?!

A BIG thank you to everyone for your responses ... I really do appreciate it!

I think the people on the Quilting Board are all under-cover psychologists!!!!! :)

Thank you all!

calano1

Sorry ....

Scrap Happy

I understand how much you would like your DIL to enjoy making quilts the way you do. I had hoped my niece would have wanted to make quilts but no go. She found it boring (imagine that!) Since your DIL does enjoy sewing she may want to make a quilt someday.

Holice

This may have already been said as I did not read all the posts.

Don't force her to do something she does not want to do.
If she has no interests in quilting or other hand work, then let it go and put your energy somewhere else
It is unproductive to try to force our interests on others.

Stitchnripper

I agree with not forcing her or "guiding", etc. What if any of us were put in that position with someone we loved trying to interest us in their love - for example, stamp collecting, car repair, etc. that we had no or just a passing interest in. It wouldn't be that pretty!

mltquilt

No one in my family quilts or sews. I agree with everyone else in that forcing her into your hobby might backfire. Just think of all the quilts you can do for the grandchildren when they come along.

mltquilt

mom-6

My MIL was a superb quilter as well as enjoying various other crafts. I loved seeing all the beautiful things she made and we swapped various crafty things. However I did not actually start quilting myself until several years after she passed on. Just this morning I was wishing she were here to help me out on something that isn't going right on my binding. So there's hope for your DIL yet! And maybe she will do so more quickly than I did.

PamB8s

Let her make a quilt top. Lap Quilt. Simple 9 patch. It has to be simple. Maybe pre cut it for her. She needs to see a beautiful completed project to keep her interested. And a product that does not take alot of her time. Good Luck