mltquilt

Everyone has a different idea of what is necessary. Some people buy Starbucks several times a week and spend money while others wouldn't buy coffee from Starbucks. Others spend it on alcohol, cigarettes etc. Quilters like to spend money on beautiful fabric. Let her comments slide on by like water on a duck's back and have fun quilting.

mltquilt

great aunt jacqui

if this is an ongoing thing with her I would silence it with MYOB. but if your encounters with her are few and far between brush it off. forget it.
Truly think she is jealous, and you wanted to go shopping for you, while you were at her house, she probably felt you were trying to entertain yourself cause she couldn't.

just a thought

DJ

It's hard for us to know how a MYOB statement would set with her. I think I would try to treat it with humor. "Oh, yes, you're probably right. I'm an addict. Ha ha. Could be worse, though. I don't do drugs . . . etc. It's my entertainment and therapy budget rolled into one . . . Are you ready to go to Walmart with me to look at fabric?" Smile!

DA Mayer

perfect

Psychomomquilter

DJ that was awesome and thoughtful too! Thanks! always smile and have them wondering what you are smiling about, hehehehe

Favorite Fabrics

If your financial house is in order, than you are free to spend your money on whatever it is that brings you joy. Or to give it away however you see fit.

I have seen people who just can't seem to hold back from giving free advice - constantly! - and was so glad that those individuals were not members of my own family (where I wouldn't be able to escape their advice).

If by chance the money situation is tight for your brother and sister-in-law right now - even if they're not talking about it - that could cause your SIL to view your purchases through the lens of her own difficulty.

I would say that if money is tight for you, it's probably best not to ever mention that in front of your SIL.

bamamama

You only live once, if quilting makes you happy, quilt. Its the best therapy on earth! Your sister in law seriously needs a hobby and is probably jelous of yours.

Psychomomquilter

Thats why I thought of taking her to the fabric stores or whatever to get her interested in something, she does like to crochet(me too) can't find any groups or clubs in the Clinton area for her to go and do things as well, yes their money is tight too, and mine is too.

ok I am going to thrift store today, and look for some stuff! thanks all of you ..... Mary

kapatt

If your husband is supportive of your quilting then I wouldn't worry too much about it. My husband and I take care of the money together. My husband is supportive as long as all of the bills are paid. What we do is give ourselves an allowance each payday where we can spend our allowance the way we want. You can use that money for going out to breakfast with the girls or buying the material. (Just make sure your husband gets the exact same amount.)

The amount of the allowance doesn't matter...it depends on your financial situation. Even $5 a payday will give you the feeling that you can save and buy for the things you want to get. It is important for you and your husband to decide these things together. Then when your sister-in-law wants to make a big deal about it, you won't feel like you are doing something wrong.
By the way, I agree with the others that it isn't your sis-in-laws business.

Murphy

Nicely said Jo. There was no reason for those harmful words from SIL.