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b.zang 11-16-2012 08:26 PM

Like May, I thought it would be fun to meet fellow QB members when I travel and arranged to meet someone at one of my destination spots. We had a wonderful visit, shared lunch and went our separate ways. I guess you could say our lives joined here but not so much on land. As much as I think it would be fun to make some friends through the board, time and distance seem like big hurdles.

I've loved the stories here of friendships made. I met my husband on-line, so know how rewarding relationships can start through the printed word.

chris_quilts 11-16-2012 08:48 PM

I was PM'd by someone on the board asking if we could email and text. We did that for about a year or so and then I was heading west to within 5 hours of her home. We arranged to meet where I was. Lots of room and beds, and had a blast for 4 days talking, quilting and sharing our lives. It was great, We're doing it again next summer time and God permitting and my DH likes her as do my DDs. I have met a couple of others from this board too but I am mostly an introvert and happy with my own company. I also do not like meeting new people although I can fake it so well that mostly others have no clue.

My advice is just don't push it and perhaps she'll come around and perhaps not but keep trying.
My two cents, Chris

Bluelady 11-16-2012 09:47 PM

Some of my best friends are people I have met via some sort of online chat room. It took a lot of guts to go meet strangers, even though I had been talking to them for months. That was when I really wanted more social activities. Now I don't have as much time and now, I am also not proud of the way I look. I feel uncomfortable even around people I know. So the chances that I would go to meet someone from here is pretty low.

But having said that, I have met a few fine ladies from here at a quilt show and once over at a friend's house when some of the gals she knew from here showed up.

sewdamncute 11-17-2012 04:38 PM


Originally Posted by sew_Tracy (Post 5659575)
I don't understand the reference to posting 14 times QuiltE. You can say it, haha, get that all the time. My last name is Fear. I met another QB member, we met at the park. We had a lot of fun. Not a big deal. I respect the other person's privacy. Just had seen that she had met with other QB members and thought it might be fun. Was just looking for perspective. Clearly you perceive me as a threat for only posting 14 times and my last name is Fear. Please check again. That is my blog entry count.

Hey Mrs Tracy Fear,
If you're ever in my neighborhood, I'll meet you and not be scared at all!
Darlene

Anastasia 11-17-2012 08:14 PM

Well.. Tracy.. you know my thoughts on this situation already.. I will just add to the list of .. I'm antisocial beyond belief, socially agoraphobic, high anxiety panic attacks, etc. etc. That said.. I prefer meeting people online. I like to chat online, and I've been doing it 20 years. Over 20 years you start to "read" people online rather well. Yea some are better at being deceptive, but I don't think I've ever been truly surprised. So, after a time of talking where I feel like.. I can trust them enough to not go psycho in a public place.. then I will meet in a public place. I feel like I already know them and already comfortable talking to them. But if someone just approached me and was like.. hey let's meet.. even in public.. I would be like no. *I* KNOW this is not the case for this situation but I also think that would be rather evident if that was the case. hehe.

I have pretty much met all of my friends online.. my ex husband.. my future husband.. and it's my preferred method of meeting people. I don't do general public well at all. And I am also one of those.. fake it real well people. Right now I'm faking it at my job.. haha. I have to interact right now because I'm in training.. once I'm on my own they will probably be surprised to hear me speak once a day. I don't like being known.. I don't like attention drawn to myself. Again, I know this is not the case for this situation. And I know you do as well.

I would love to meet anyone in the twin cities, MN area.. so would my mom. So.. hit me up :D *post hijack* hehehe. Love you BAMF! I'll meet you. soon as I find a reason to get down there.

Elisabrat 11-17-2012 11:12 PM

Ok I think you have to simply chalk it up to the fact it had nothing to do with you. She simply changed her mind and didnt know how to say it. I met my hubby online, craigslist actually. He said he was just looking for someone to go to lunch with or a movie sometime. We celebrate our 8 yr this January. I love quilting no quilting store near here not really anyway to make quilter friends unless I was in a quilt chat. I love the people I have met here. I chat with a couple by phone weekly and another daily in email. In a 'real' world you won't like everyone you meet, you will change your opinion of someone you know at some point in the relationship, in a good way or a negative way but things change. Its ok. There are just as many who are interested in making and meeting new friends. You will find them with time.

nancia 11-18-2012 07:38 AM

I met an online friend at a quilt show. Knew she didn't feel the connection when she suggested we split and look at different things. Hurt my feelings a tad, but guess i was the only one having fun. Thanked her and moved on.

BellaBoo 11-18-2012 09:19 AM

I'll meet any online quilter I have been emailing or chatting with. I have no fear of one being a loon or crazy. We always meet first in a public place. I have sense enough to say I don't feel comfortable with you so I'm leaving. I've only had to do that once. She brought her DH who was loud, obnoxious, and too flirty for me to tolerate.

I have met many other online pals and they have all been super! It never occurred to me to take my DH with me to meet another quilter. He would be bored to death especially if we decided to go to the quilt shop after meeting.

Ditter43 11-18-2012 10:45 AM

I have met a few ladies from the board. It wasn't uncomfortable for me......

QuiltingJaguar 11-18-2012 10:57 AM

That's a darn shame, I met someone on this board who was from Michigan but also lives part of the year in Jacksonville. She wanted to know of a quilt group she could join near her home. It so happens we meet at the library not far from where she lived. We (our group) have her company and still do weekly. She has taught us so much and believe we have also taughter her some things but most of all its a great social period for all of us. Thanks Kathi...


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