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Thread: how would you handle this?

  1. #101
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    I would refer her to another longarmer. She can see the reality of what she is asking.

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    I would give the quilt back to her, and explain that you have your own projects to do and just can't find the time to fix and quilt her quilt. Suggest she take it to a professional quilter and let them deal with her. You paid for your machines and you would have to spend your valuable time working on her quilt. If she still insists on you finishing it for her - tell her you will do it for $400.00, for the reasons listed above. That should stop her!!

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    I would give the quilt back to her, and explain that you have your own projects to do and just can't find the time to fix and quilt her quilt. Suggest she take it to a professional quilter and let them deal with her. You paid for your machines and you would have to spend your valuable time working on her quilt. If she still insists on you finishing it for her - tell her you will do it for $400.00, for the reasons listed above. That should stop her!! :wink:

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    Get it out of your house. Send it back w/name of a longarm quilter you do not know! Keep the "eposit" as it is a small price she's paid for your time patience. Stick to your plan.

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    You are doing the RIGHT thing by giving this back to her.

    One more thing you can tell her:

    She is planning to sell this quilt. YOU do not have a business license and therefore cannot quilt for pay.

    A professional quilter will have no problem charging her for quilting that quilt. I've seen miracles happen so I won't say the quilt is un-quiltable, it just sometimes depends on how much money you have to throw at a problem.

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    well, since you asked what someone else would do...I would have refused to take it in the first place. Secondly, when we allow someone to use us we are ENABLING them to use everyone in the same way. That behavior must be stopped and when we no longer ENABLE them to get away with it, they may think twice about doing it again. However, I do realize some folks do not learn quickly or may not see themselves at fault. That is not the point. The point is to HELP them relate to others and if that takes certain unpleasent measures for us, so be it. It really does come down to HELPING her to be more thoughtful and considerate. I have had to do this and for me it worked and the person did realize she was very inconsiderate and said that others probably see her that way too, which was true.

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    Me thinks you need to get into confrontation, tactfully.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tjradj
    There is no rule on this earth that says you have to be a door mat.
    Write out your reasons why you can't do this quilt. You have valid ones.
    Then phone your "friend" and read your script verbatim. Do not waver. If she gets upset - tough. That is her problem.
    You obviously aren't close to this person or she would already know your opinion.
    Just tell her. You cannot accept the top in the condition it was given, and she has the choice to either take it apart and fix it, or have someone else quilt it. Period.
    My guess is she'll take it somewhere else.
    The lose her phone number. She is not a real friend.
    Well said, tjradj - I agree all the way down the line. If you do this job "as is" (or worse, after you fix all the shortcomings) you'll be swallowing untold amounts of negativity as you do it, while trying to maximize her profit to boot.... and she'll be back with more shoddily contructed work and expectations of maximum profit for her minimal input.

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    I agree with everyone else. Give it back quickly. You never agreed to that size and she didn't finish the quilt. I cannot imagine anyone paying that kind of money for a sloppily done quilt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Murphy
    Return it to the person who gave it to you and explain what she needs to complete before it can be quilted. This is not your problem and she is not learning if you do it for her.
    I agree. If she wants to learn, she needs to learn how to do it correctly. You might also want to hand her a bill for the fabric you donated seeing as she's getting paid for the quilt.

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