Thread: what do you say when you give a gift, and reciepiant says

Originally Posted by GrannieAnnie

How blind would a person have to be to tell if something was pieced or printed?

Pretty blind, but some of us are.

Honestly, I didn't really know people expected written thank you's for gifts. I got one once, when I was seven, after the birthday party for a girl in my class. I didn't understand why she sent it to me. I just wasn't raised to send out thank you cards. If someone gives me a gift and they are there, I thank them. If I open a gift from someone and they aren't there, I don't thank them because they aren't there. It doesn't mean I'm not thankful for the gift or that I'm ungrateful, they just aren't there. I honestly never knew it was an issue. These other people who don't thank for gifts could just not be aware, either.

As for those that receive quilts and have them stored away... my great aunt made a quilt that was brought to my grandpa's funeral. After the funeral was over, my dad got to keep it for his own. He keeps it folded on a wide hanger in a closet, covered in a plastic bag with an open bottom to protect it from any wear from other objects hitting it. It's not that he's unappreciative of it. It's that he -loves- the quilt and is afraid of using it, for fear of ruining it. So it's kept stored away.

Originally Posted by svenskaflicka1

as for thankyou's--our immediate family is small, close, and loving. the unspoken agreement among us adults is that a verbal thank you and a hug is enough--but the kids are taught that if a gift is received, a note of thanks is written, and teaching by example is still done. one of my kids found it easier to "draw" her thanks. (she has a degree in studio art, now), but an acknowledgement was always given! now that my kids are all adults, we are back to hugs and thankyous--but their kids are learning the same thing. when somebody cares enough for you that they give, you must let them know that you get it--that they made an effort, followed through, and made you special.

Very nicely stated.