I always try to find out a person's color preference. I know the colors I like, but I'm "old" per my grandkids, so I know I don't like the same as them. My daughter thinks country is very old fashioned and won't have it. My oldest grandaughter liked pink and black, the next one brown and pink, the little one likes green...any color green, just green (at 2!!!). The boys aren't picky, just prefer certain characters. So....it's hard to choose without checking in with them first!!! Sorry your feelings were hurt, but I'm sure she would have said she loved it if you had told her it was hers!! They don't hurt us on purpose, Grandma!! :( :( ;)