I know about the hurt of gifts being rejected...Now, if I want to do something "special" for someone, I will ask them specifically what they want. If it's a quilt, I chose 6 - 12 patterns that I know that I can do and have them chose a pattern and what colors they want. I then make that for them...is a surprise? NO... is it well received... Yes. Do I expect a written thank you... not if they thanked me in person.... If I don't receive an acknowledgement, I ask did you get it and did you like it? I'm not shy