Ohhhhhh. That is a toughie Mom. How old is your DD? I see how you want to avoid turmoil and try to replace it for her. Yet can you always do that throughout her life? I don't know. A tough one for sure. Since it was for her Bday it makes it even more sad for her. But? Where is the fine line we parents have to draw in order to teach responsability? I am so glad I don't have to make this decision. I feel for you. Been there & done this with 4 in the past & it was not all fun! Babies should have been born with instruction manuals for the parents. LOL