My DD#1 is 13 and doesn't have an ipod, cell phone, or laptop. She does have a digital camera and mp3 which are her favorite things. She has scratched up her camera screen because she doesn't keep it in the case. She knows that if she breaks or loses either she will be in trouble and will not get replacements. I wish I had the money to buy whatever whenever but I don't. I would not rplace the ipod, give it some time to turn up and if it doesn't then give her some time to be without.I know you feel bad that this happened and want to get her another, I would too, but it was a gift that was a want not a need and you and Dh got it even though money was tight.