My hubby retired in 1991. Took care of his mother for 3 years and before we could turn around, we were taking care of my mother who lived 500 miles from us. I would go and stay 2 and 3 months at a time, alternating with my younger sister. I did that for 19 years. She died in July 2005, and we thought we would be able to travel as he had been wanting to, but in the middle of inventorying her estate, DH had a heart attack. Long story short he passed away 2 days before Thanksgiving in 2005. Mother's estate is still not final, but getting close.
When he first retired, I stayed angry for almost a year and it was hard to hide it, but I think I did a fair job of doing so. When he worked, he left home at6:15 am and got home most times at 8:00 pm His dept was required to work a lot of overtime, instead of hiring an additional worker. He worked for Civil Service at Ft. Sill. It seemed like I didn't have any alone time anymore. But it soon worked out well until his passing.