For me it would be much easier to know they were closer distance wise. I don't feel the need to monopolize them, we all have our own lives, but the separation by distance brings its own problems too, timing visits with work and money are huge, especially now. And of course the eventual emotional distance that happens to some degree. Phones are fine, emails/pics etc. are good but they certainly aren't a substitute.
Only time will tell how the whole adjustment time will end up. But for now, for me, part of the reality of my little piece of the world is going to crash shortly. I have my permission to feel this in all it's entirety and not have a lick of guilt or shame.