I'm so sorry to hear about this!
I agree with using vinegar to get the smell out. My kids would go to their Grandma's (DH's Mom, she smokes) she would wash their clothes before sending them home (I know she was trying to be helpful) but the detergent or fabric softener that she used made me ill, it smelled SO STRONG! Anyways!! :oops: I always re-washed the kids clothes in vinegar added to the water (sometimes had to do it twice) to get the smell of detergent/fabric softener and smoke out. It always worked for me!