Originally Posted by lots2do
Hi,
Am feeling a little down. DS graduated from High School Friday. For the next two days, he's at his college's orientation. I am happy for him, really I am but part of me just wants to wrap him up in batting so he is safe and sound and doesn't get hurt by life. (I know, we all get hurt by life, it wouldn't be life if we didn't but this is how I feel).
I've never been a smother mother and these feelings are really surprising me. Has anyone else felt this way?
Thank you,
lots2do
PS He is not even going very far, just up the highway about 45 minutes away, but will live there.
We all go through it and I guarantee you and he will survive. You've done a good job as Mom and now it's time to let him show you what a wonderful Mother you've been. Sure he'll make some decisions you won't agree with but most of our kids survive and do just fine. He'll learn from what ever bumps pop up in life and as with you and all of us, they will make him a better and stronger person. My Mother had trouble letting go and I had to fight for the privilege of living my life and making my own decisions and I've survived it all just fun. Life wasn't always easy or a bed of roses but it's been a good life and I sure wouldn't change a thing. Our 2 children are now 45 and 46 and both have thanked us repeatedly over the years for being good parents and then allowing them the privilege of living their lives. They know we are here if/when needed and they will come to us because they know we'll talk them through their important decisions and help them figure out the best one for them - we don't tell them what to do; just guide them through the steps so they can decide what they want to do. If they make a wrong choice, they are the ones who have to live with the consequences or rewards of their decisions and when they make a bad one, they have always figured out how to make things work out. Your son will too. Just let him know you love him, are proud of him and are there if he ever needs to talk or needs help and then let him enjoy his life with your loving support and encouragement. Just my opinion.
Hugs
Patty