Can't say much more than what everyone else said so I will just second everyone's thoughts. I think you did a wonderful job and I really think it is patriotic. I especially like the repeat of the flag fabric. When a few days have passed, I think I would ask him if he cared if you gave it to the local VA (or similar) since he does not want it. I wouldn't bother with giving him the hanging stuff. One thing about hurts- they eventually heal and like the song says, forgiving is easy but forgetting takes a long, long time.