Maybe the advantage I have is Bob and I met when I was 55. I spent a lot of years partner-less and learned to be very independent to the point I wondered if I'd ever be able to live with someone. Then came Bob! He fit into my life seamlessly, as if he'd been there all along. In his previous lives, he was married to two very dependent women so I think I'm a real novelty for him. We joke about "when I get an idea" but he's always been very supportive. He's a keeper! even though, soemtimes, he forgets to put a pad under the T-bird and let's it drip oil all over the driveway!!!