I get it now ! Guess I have been paying it forward for along time now, since I love giving more than I do recieving. Seriously, I have had to learn to recieve something without feeling obligated to return something in exchange.. Been a hard thing to accomplish, but I am doing that.. But , my drothers would be to Give, give, give because I love knowing someone might be blessed in recieving a surprise, too! thanks to those who made it understandable!