lets face it. Not everyone will use what we give for a gift.
We might like it, but that does not mean we will use it.
Lots of time or just money spent does not dictate how a gift will be used. We all have things we put away and never use. We only have room for so much. If you are having feelings about how a gift will be shoved aside, give money or just give the quilt and forget and hope you do not see it laying in the trash. My cat has a few that we let her lay on to keep hair off furniture. She does not tear them up and if I give one away that is used for a dog, so be it.